some of the nicest $cientologists I met when 'in' were the older generation, often in their late 60's, 70's and 80's.
They were mostly very kind, well mannered and just pretty nice people.
I remember being audited by a South African woman (about 72), an OT who was a public at Saint Hill, and she gave me all of my 'leaving confessionals' or Sec checks. At the time I didn't realise what they were doing with me, I just found the questions a bit weird.
She was a great person, I really liked her.
Altho very wrinkled, she was quite slim and athletic.
I remember her once running for a bus at Saint Hill and was astonished at how fast she ran.
At the time I put it all down to her being OT.
Thinking back I believe they abused her good will to their advantage, as I don't think she was payed for her work.
Then I know another 'OT', Erika Barram, who is now in her early 80's has also been in $cn for a long time.
All of her family are in and she would probably tell a similar story to the other elderly woman who completed OT7.
Erika has probably gotten thousands of people into $cn, as she was/is a very successful FSM.
I think her husband is SO, she definitely isn't, and one of her sons was SO, now living outside with a child in Clearwater etc.
She would also tell a similar success story of how proud she is to have gotten so many people into the cult.
By doing so, she gained financially from it and is looked upon as a hugely 'successful' $cientologst.
All I can think of is quote from the Bible:
"forgive them as they know not what they do"
I dream of sitting down and having a cup of tea with this kind of person.
Then reflect of their long life and try not to be too judgemental with what they tell me.
I agree with what the person said before about it not all being about 'me', and if they seem happy with their lives then I should be happy for them.
With emphasis on the 'should', cos I find that the hardest part.