I have fought for people's right to make their own decisions about SCN. I simply was blind-sided by the idea that a former SO, especially one who had been through SOOOOOO much with me, could ever, IN A MILLION YEARS even CONSIDER to go back into the SO.
Mark
Was that a break in affinity
communication
reality
understanding?
Yeah, no doubt, I would have a bit of trouble understanding this behavior from such a friend, especially from all you describe.
While "brain-washed" might not be the exact perfect term to describe what is going on, there is no doubt that she is MIRED in a sea of FIXED IDEAS based on Hubbard's many claims and statements.
Simply, she obviously AGREES with all of the standard BS line that Hubbard spouts all through his writings and books - that "only we have the way out", "Scn makes OTs", "the Earth needs Scientology", etc. If she still accepts all the BASIC nutty ideas that form the framework of Scientology, she is effectiviely a True Believer, who is incapable of seeing ANYTHING outside of her own tight little box of beliefs. It seems that "KSW #1" still "means something" to her. :confused2:
Hubbard was correct when he explained how "fixed ideas" block off any person from benefiting from the fruits of their own observations. A person with severe
fixed ideas is LOCKED inside their head, TRAPPED by the ideas he or she has AGREED with, and just as Hubbard accurately explains, is INCAPABLE OF LEARNING FROM EXPERIENCE. Hubbard knew all about how people with
fixed ideas can be controlled and he worked hard and effectively to instill
his own set of fixed ideas into the minds of dedicated Scientologists. Obviiously, with some, he has succeeded.
The intense "aberration" of any Scientologist rests firmly upon the AGREEMENTS he or she has made about the various details of Hubbard's (highly imaginary) paradigm. It seems that she has never taken the time to look hard and see through the many LIES that Hubbard's fantasy worldview is based upon. But, it probably IS too late for that. If she has held onto these absurd beliefs and convictions for this long, despite ALL the obvious perceptions to the contrary, she WANTS TO BELIEVE!
In such a case, I figure it would be best, as frhidden said, to try to send her to the FZ. That IS a FAR "lesser evil" than what goes on with the Church of Scientology. And, it also acts as a good "gradient" to "full release from Scientology" for many.
I would take the view that you understand what she feels. That you grasp her desire to "help". But, point out in no uncertain terms the MANY serious evils that official Church has committed. Tell her about Paulette Coooper. How the CHurch framed her in a crime that she NEVER committed. THAT is SO EVIL. Explain how the modern Church does that all of the time. Explain how modern OSA framed Anon Sparrow recently in a crime that HE NEVER committed.
Explain how so many people get declared, and have their relationships with families and friends torn apart, simply because they "disagreed" some point about how the Church is currently being run. Even pretend that it is ALL "Miscavige's fault". DO NOT make it "out ot be Hubbards fault", because I doubt, with the
fixed ideas she currently entertains, that she can possibly "have" that "truth".
Explain that she can and should work to help and reach her goals of Scientology WITHOUT contributing to the abomination that is the modern Church of Scientology. Make the usual, and fairly easy to convince argument, that the "organization has betrayed LRH's dream". That the "organization has gone off the rails". That "Miscavige has sabotaged all of Hubbard's hard work". Use buttons that will "get a read".
In other words, don't disagree or try to change her mind about her really SEVERE FIXED IDEAS. You probably can't. But many Scios CAN be fairly easily encouraged to notice how the modern C of S violates so many of Hubbard's policies and goals. Of course, you will be "using ARC" to handle (manipulate) her. You will leave out info such as that
Hubbard himself is the REAL cause of all the insanities in the C of S. You will "tell acceptabe truths". Just like in Scientology, at times, one must "manipulate" using ARC, "for the good of the other person".
But, if it works, it works!!!!!!
Keep her OUT of the C of S if at all possible.
Don't discuss many different faults. Pick one and DRIVE IT HOME. Work an idea until she gets it. Then work on another. You know her, so you should already know what angle of "attack" she would "best respond to".