ESMB is what it is, and that's a whole lot of different things to a whole lot of different people. It's also a whole lot of different things to me as well - While ESMB has its stated purpose/purposes, I (like everyone else), been given the privilege of being here, and the freedom to "take it" and/or "preceive it" and/or utilise it, as I do.
To me, ESMB is a place where...
...one can come and be understood.
...one can come and get understanding and find truths.
...one can find people of like mind.
...one can make such good friends.
...some very special people are.
...ya can have a chat, a giggle and a laugh
...ya can get help whenever ya need it.
...the entertainment is better than tv.
...ya can just be and hang with ya mates.
...ya can provide comfort and help for those in need.
...ya can direct people to, for needed info and support.
...ya can share whatever ya want, and clean out all the heebie greebies from your closet if ya feel so inclined.
...it's "safe" and "on the money" for those on the fence looking for answers.
...you're exposed to so much stuff (whether scio related or not), that ya can't help but learn and increase your understanding.
...potentially, the "bestest" therapy is available for the taking, if and when ya want to avail yourself of it.
...potentially, anything and everything, to do with any aspect of life is there for the taking, for oneself and/or others.
To me it's all about the people and what they have to give - The people who actively participate here, and the people who can and do change their lives by lurking or by reading what's here.
ESMB has been a key factor in just so, so many getting off the fence, cutting ties with the CofS and starting over. For others, it's been the best "therapist" that one could imagine - I don't just think this, I know this.
ESMB belongs to Emma. She put it here and keeps it here (she's a good, good gul!
). At the same time though, others contributed to making it what it was, and along with newcomers, continue to contribute to making it what is - It's theirs/ours too, to that degree. Some kind of 'ownership' or 'care for', or 'concern for' when it has been such a gem for so many of us and for so many others, isn't so hard to understand, is it?
I believe it's a natural thing to want to 'protect' something which is good. ESMB will be what it will be. It will ebb and flow. The individuals who have made and make it what it is aren't the types who will be controlled or dominated, so it will always go every which way to some extent. These individuals are the types who care though, the types who feel free to communicate, and the types who are happy to be communicated to - Communication including that about ESMB itself and that which may be affecting it, shouldn't be frowned upon, nor seen as an effort to control or manipulate, IMO.
I don't believe ESMB happened by chance and/or just evolved. Emma put it there with a specific purpose in mind. That purpose was pretty unique, and couldn't have been fulfilled without some guidelines or "restrictions". Some folks got on board who understood, had similar purposes, and were happy to support her endeavour. If ESMB had every "freedom" that every other scio related message board had, then it wouldn't be what it is. Nor would it be what it is, if there weren't people on board who support its purposes.
To many of us, ESMB is not just some internet message board. It IS a 'community' full of understanding, care and love - At the same time I grant that for some, it's just a message board. To many of us exes though, it IS unique and it IS special - it has way surpassed that of a simple "message board".
Good on ya Emma Darlin' and good on all who make ESMB what it is.