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But, I'm going to assume face value and say it's an accurate account. When I read the OP I was kind of surprised that music was allowed at all. Honestly I don't fault staff for asking her to turn it off, but the manner in which it was done was not OK. Remember staff are supposed to be trained in dealing with people. . .ARC and "good control" should be second nature, with all the study and drilling. Yes, it sounds like there may have been some "attitude" there, but who's responsible for that comm cycle? Just because someone is in "lower conditions" doesn't mean staff is justified in losing their TR's, or treating them with disrespect. I still say it speaks poorly about the effectiveness of the tech.
-TL
In regard to what I've bolded above:
We don't know what the manner was, in which it was done. We have an 'account' from someone who we hardly know, about an 'incident', given in a fashion which seemed pretty 'one sided' and full of an "all about me", somewhat defiant attitude (in my mind).
I recall a BBQ we had here some years ago. A boy (visiting with his parents) thought it was ok (or his ‘right’) to wipe his hands on our couch, after he'd eaten some chocolate mud cake. My boys told him to use a napkin, but he kept wiping his hands on the couch apparently. One of my boys came and told me about it. I went up to where the kids were, established that the boy had wiped his hands on the couch, and I told him firmly but politely that doing that wasn't acceptable here. The boy looked at me defiantly, then smirked, and asked me what my problem was. He said that I was the mother and that I could clean it up later. I then went and spoke to his parents about what had occurred, but I got a smart ass response from the boy's Dad. I wasn't gonna make a scene when I had guests, so I just 'politely' and quietly asked them to leave, and they did. If they didn’t just leave as requested, then I probably would have exposed a fang or two.
I heard a couple of weeks later a very different version of events. Apparently, I was a snotty nosed bitch, who had no tolerance for children, and who had kicked out some guests at my BBQ because their kid dropped some cake on the couch.
Reading the op reminded me of this occurrence and the subsequent crap that I heard about it afterward, from people who weren't there.
Respect, manners, and etiquette count for something to many of us. Be it at a public library, someone else's house, or even an org - Ya don't just act like a selfish little brat, and expect it to be "all about you" (although some do).
At our place, it's like central railway station - Visitors walk into the house with dirty boots, it's fine to put their feet up on the coffee table, and they ya can help themselves to a snack or a drink if they want one. But then, around here too, the boys/men don't wear caps/hats at the dinner table. If they aren't willing to take their cap off, then they don't eat. When we go to someone else's house though, where things are different than around here, then we are happy to go along with what they do (and even if we think some of their 'ways' are loopy).
If in fact Aeval was at the org, and an altercation between her and the Cope Off occurred, then
who knows what actually occurred? From the attitude displayed in the op, I'd hardly be making any assumptions about fault of the SO member in
this circumstance.
Scn critics can and do fall for ‘automatically’ accusing the Scio, just like it is common for Scios to slag off and be very judgmental about any and all of the critics. To have such assumptions, accusations and judgments laid on ya so readily and easily, just because you’re a critic, a staff member, or a Scio, or whatever.........is cringe material, IMO.
Hypothetically, if Aeval was the Scio, and the SO member was the 'critic', in the story, who would you support in that instance?
