Hi all,
I was basic course supervisor at Hastings mission uk for a short time.
To cut a long and painful story short, the ED was a total bitch to me when she found out that I was pregnant and called me and my partner all the names under the sun. I was in training at this time. I mostly finished my training but had to stop at 7 months pregnant. I was unable to recite the supervisors code as my daughter would kick me every time and make me laugh....
I was treated pretty badly in the end at St Hill. They would not allow me to leave the course room to pee or rest or drink or eat or be sick. I left and wanted to finish the training after the birth.
I moved heaven and earth to finish the training when my little girl was 3 months old. It was a nightmare and all had to come out of my own pocket of course. That's another story. I returned to the mission having gone through sleeping in a single bed with my newborn for 2 months and found the ED and her cronies were totally against me. REALLY. I have never experienced such hatred and out ethics. They were NASTY.
I had no students to supe except the ones that I roped in - mostly my own music students - and in the end, due to the fact that I was unable to afford a baby sitter, let alone find one I could leave my baby with, I was expelled. Just like that. I went to ethics and they found that mine were in.... fns etc. The ED, however, was not ethical at all. In the end, I just kept on walking as I had had enough abuse to last me a long time. My daughter was and is FAR more important than those silly people.
I have been a practicing Buddhist for 10 years (although they tried to stop me from doing that) and I am happy to say that I am back on my path again.
The sh** that I got for being pregnant, having a beautiful baby and wanting to do the best for her was unreal. The fact that she is mixed race and her Daddy is black as the ace of spades freaked them all out. I got the lot.....
wow!
I tried to find someone to replace me before I was so kindly removed and during that process, found that all the emails I sent to the missions in the WHOLE of Europe bounced back save 2 in France. This made me realise that the whole thing was a con / front / money making business. 35 emails returned?
Then I started to look at the stats and the fake stats that had been twisted and bent out of shape so that birthday games could be won etc..... how come my stats counted in Plymouth, again in Hastings, again in Brighton, again in wherever.....? Hmm.... faked.
I looked at OT3 materials and then realised that I was being lied to.
I read as much data as possible and the piece de resistance - Jason Beghe. THANKS MATE - you saw me through the time when I was being hurt by these crazy people. Watching his you tube dvd was brilliant. To hear it from someone 'up the bridge'. I realised that Mr Humbug was just having us on.
So - I have been out since October 08 and although there is a lot to get through, I am finding myself again. I was only 4 years in so I got off lightly. I think I have SP status now.... ha ha ha - what a joke... me an SP!
Is that short for Special Person? h aha ha ha ha ha - no, I think that is reserved for my beautiful little girl. She is a special person and thanks to her, I am out of the darkness.
Many good vibes to you all
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I am so glad I came accross your fantastic post as this is all so true!!!
I was a young mum on post and many times I recieved similar treatment, as there is no regard for Parents & children in the CoS.
Your story reminded me of all staff that I witnessed fall pregnant or want to look after their children.
Big well done to you on getting you & your beautiful baby out, believe you me, the only way is up for you now go and get really freed now.
Do well