hbeer
Patron with Honors
Newton's Laws of $cn motion: For every policy there is an equal and opposite re-policy.
Ha, ha, ha. That's a good one. Insane but true!
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Newton's Laws of $cn motion: For every policy there is an equal and opposite re-policy.
I remember going to a shrink long before I heard of $cn. It seems I was having a problem with self respect, so his suggestion was to learn to love myself. He prescribed masturation. A couple of weeks later, I had an appointment again. The first thing he asked was if I had masterbated. I sad, yeah, but I didn't particularly (sp) like it. He went into a never mind what your mother told you about it or what a preacher might have said about it, etc. I said that it had nothing to do with what others said. So he asked what about it didn't I like. My answer was THERE'S NO ONE TO TALK TO.
It seems that when it comes to "rape", it is always the man who is targeted as the guilty party--as far as progressive laws go, a woman can charge her husband with rape, even when nothing happened!
For some of the Female Exec predators, it has little to do with sex directly, it's about control--the same as rape being about control rather than the sex.
The attraction to this type of behavior is, "Who would believe it?"
WOW!, what an impressive post of humility and wisdom.
thank you for writing that.
Hbeer,
Perhaps living in Europe makes a difference, and perhaps the difference is you. For you, sexuality seems as easy as breathing, but, there are plenty of people that find sexuality difficult, which is a "ruin" that makes people vulnerable to Scientology, a more common and easy ruin at that.
I personally considered myself retarded in the area of people skills, finding women, and picking up on all the signals, so I waged a holy war, a jihad of sorts, to find and have as many different women as possible. While I had some success, it was an expensive hobby that lasted thru the time I was 29, and consisted mainly of frustration. I found out tho that I wasn't alone, and that there were plenty of guys who were plenty worse off in that department than I was, and actually looked up to me.
Finally, a funny thing happened ... I went broke, wound up on the streets of Los Angeles, where I was recruited to do "fundraising" (some would say professional panhandling) in front of various stores in Los Angeles. The "mission" was 4 rooms in a downtown hotel that was full of down-and-outers who were just a notch above the street. Considering my financial situation, I was not actively chasing women at clubs anymore, I was in a survival situation. But, without persuing any women, there were all of these women who were ok looking just slightly flakey and a lot broke in this hotel, and many of them were just dropped in my lap. The money was easy as well, at least on the survival level. There was some sort of kharmic lesson being taught me ... I stopped chasing women, removed my attention from the subject area, and all of a sudden I was pulling them in. Interesting.
Anyways ... just to let you know ... there are those who spend a lifetime caught up in considerations that keep them away from ever having a relationship. I have a brother-in-law who is like that. Finally, a few years ago when he was 50, he finally went to bed with some chick.
Pete
I tried the bar/club scene a few times in my 20's, never got anywhere. The music is too loud to have any sort of conversation. Women need to have a chance to talk to me for a while before they decide they're interested. I met my wife in the org, and we knew each other for months before any dating started.
I am 56, and have a moderately severe case of oldfartosis as evidenced by an expanding middle and receding hairline. Parts that should be supple are getting stiffer and vice versa.
I want to comment on one thing that may be more important than it first seems:
Things going supple. I have read an article that said that men are lucky because they have an early warning sign in this.
It said that it's an average 8 years from erectile dysfunction to serious circulation problems that culminate in heart attacks, strokes, smoker's legs etc., or lead to dementia.
EDTA chelation has very realistic chances to reverse all of these things, including the ED. Garlic (raw) at least keeps them from getting worse.
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I appreciate your concern and advice, Heidrun. You are definitely the ESMB answer to Dr. Ruth. The indirect reference to ED that I made, however, was part of attempted humor regarding my age and not my actual condition. Mainly what I need to do is drop 50 pounds, and I am working on that.
Along with parting company with tobacco several months back after a relapse of perhaps 5 or 6 weeks, I also made a decision to get back to the gym and am struggling along with that, taking it relatively easy, getting thru the minor muscle aches. I have already made changes to diet and am doing various suppliments. Interesting you should mention the garlic, I just sent out for a particularly potent garlic suppliment thru A.I.M., the same folk I get BarleyLife thru.
There are other circulatory cleansers other than EDTA, such as various cayanne peppers such as the habenero/ginger shooter I described on here sometime back. I have done the EDTA in the past in oral form, will probably do that again in the not too distant future.
I would say right now my biggest problem is time management ... I have to manage to get in the workouts and keep everything else happening, and, along with that, I have a terrible coffee habbit which is causing chronic heartburn. The heartburn has abated since going back on BarleyLife but not completely, I need to quit drinking coffee.
Quitting coffee is for me more difficult than cigarettes. First off, it is a social habbit, people share their coffee time together. I like the ritual of it, in particular, going to StarBucks. I enjoy the flavor of it, and too much. Quitting makes you want to sleep 12 hours a day and gives you headaches. Tapering off isn't my style for anything, just quitting is psychologically easier for me than tapering off, but, the downside of quitting coffee is so bad that I need to taper off gradually, which, as i said, is difficult because I always want just a little bit more.
Again, thank you for your kind thoughts and advice.
Pete
You are welcome!
Quite an ambitious program that you have prescribed to yourself. I can relate to it. Did the caffeine withdrawal, still on the weight program (one clothes size already done). Thank God I never smoked. On the other hand I'm addicted to "beautiful old faces". Do you have a cure for that?
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Well, perhaps. One of these years I will get over to Europe again (the last time I was there was in 1978, got to spend a week in Norway) I will make a point of going to Amsterdam, perhaps I will give you a call and we can hang out at one of those famous Kafe's, enjoy the "refreshments" and reminisce about old times.
Pete
GoNuclear;365672 Quitting coffee is for me more difficult than cigarettes. First off said:I gave up coffee for several years. I thought the heavy acid was bad for me. It is, I'm sure, speaking intellectually.
But it tastes good. I enjoy the process of making it , and / or sharing time talking with friends over it.
In the big picture, although not physically healthy for me; It is mentally healthy for me.
I like fresh squeezed orange juice, but the emotional hit is not there. coffee, the taste, the heat, the smell, the heavy warm mug all have intangible positive effects that a healthy glass of fresh squeezed OJ doesn't.
I gave up coffee for several years. I thought the heavy acid was bad for me. It is, I'm sure, speaking intellectually.
But it tastes good. I enjoy the process of making it , and / or sharing time talking with friends over it.
In the big picture, although not physically healthy for me; It is mentally healthy for me.
I like fresh squeezed orange juice, but the emotional hit is not there. coffee, the taste, the heat, the smell, the heavy warm mug all have intangible positive effects that a healthy glass of fresh squeezed OJ doesn't.
Yes, of course, all of that is enjoyable. And there is one more thing ... meeting a possible romantic interest in a coffee house is FUN, it is not the miserable contrived atmosphere of a club that sells alchohol and plays music at too high a volume. I dealt with that topic in a previous post on this thread ... now let me cover the coffee house.
I used to especially enjoy some of the coffee houses in the greater Los Angeles area, and the best ones had a soft, evening atmosphere ... they were furnished more like living rooms than your austere StarBucks korporate koffee kinda atmosphere, which is at best a meeting room atmosphere. A few times I met women in coffee houses ... not often, but sometimes. But when I did, the time flew by, there was great conversation, there was a meeting of minds, no pressure, no overwhelming loud music, no overwhelming cloud of tobacco stench in the air, etc. Unfortunately, no such place exists in the Greater St. Louis area. There are some places that are kinda sorta like that, but not just quite. I tinkered with some concepts with the idea of starting one myself, but that is a huge risk, was thinking more in terms of a private members only club to avoid bureau'ratic hassles.
The best I have seen since coming to the Greater St. Louis area ... there was one fellow, a corporate psychologist for his bread and butter, who was/is a NORML member, also on a totally raw food diet, pretty advanced at Yoga, and into various political causes. He did the corporate psych thing for a living, but, made a huge point of associating after hours with his peers. Instead, his friends were from various political causes and/or worked in the local natural foods market since bought out by a major chain. Every Sunday night he would have an informal get together at his pad. Weed was always happening, this guy was in a job position above being forced to piss in a bottle on command, and generally stayed on weed 24/7. I enjoyed the get togethers because it was an eclectic crowd of people, and good weed tends to get people talkative. That ended a few years ago when his situation changed, nobody else was positioned to continue the tradition, what a shame.
Pete
The question is ... how is it that virtually all social scenes center around shit that is unhealthy????
Lakey,
Yes, the bar scene/overly loud music is putrid. Women who want to shtup you for revenge on their boy friends are putrid as well, but, as long as you can take her someplace safe where the b/f is not going to show up and make a scene or cause you to sport a brand new 9mm asshole in your chest, why not take advantage.
If you want to avoid all of that and still have a variety of women coming your way, the solution is to be rich. Learn to make as much in one day as most guys make in a year ... or at least make that much every week ... and lots of women will follow, it's like some sort of natural law or something, and there will be no worries about fone numbers.
Pete
I gave up coffee for several years. I thought the heavy acid was bad for me. It is, I'm sure, speaking intellectually.
But it tastes good. I enjoy the process of making it , and / or sharing time talking with friends over it.
In the big picture, although not physically healthy for me; It is mentally healthy for me.
I like fresh squeezed orange juice, but the emotional hit is not there. coffee, the taste, the heat, the smell, the heavy warm mug all have intangible positive effects that a healthy glass of fresh squeezed OJ doesn't.
Sort of off-topic Carmelo, but between all this talk of sex on this thread, and your very cute and seductive avatar pic, I am having a hard time, I mean "difficult time", staying focused here!!!
Would you mind changing it to something less racy?
I hear you loud and clear but are those the types of women one really wants to get involved with? I don't know for sure but am just asking.
Look at that old you know what. Hugh Hefner, all that money and glitz and he seems to get whoever he wants. That is a perfect example of what you are talking about. If you don't have money, you can compensate with extremely good looks in many instances. With out either of those two qualities, there is still a variety of opportunities open to you but you have to either just get lucky and run into a soul mate or get creative and figure out some sort of angle which enables you to succeed. You have to figure out a way to be different and to stand out from the crowd. Usually, it can be done. This one friend of my Son was into Irish type dancing, where you use only your feet and don't do much of anything with your hands. He belonged to an Irish dancing club and the girls were all knockouts to look at, at least as good as the Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders, if not better. There was a scarcity of males in the Irish Dancing Club and my Son's friend was just average looking, not from a rich family and had just an average personality and he brought over his girlfriend from the Dance Club. The girlfriend looked like the cover girl on the Sports Illustrated annual swimsuit addition and she was all over this guy like he was a God. I remarked to my Son's friend how lucky he was to be going with such a hot and spunky girl and he replied that he was getting tired of her as was thinking of dumping her in favor of one of the other dancers in the club. THE MORAL OF THE STORY FOR MALES IS TO LEARN TO DO IRISH DANCING AND THEN JOIN AN IRISH DANCING CLUB.
Lakey
Lakey