your story with your kids
your story reminds me of mine, and I also dont know how to resolve the situation.
I have not had contact to my son (now 26) for 10 years.
When recently looking on Facebook I found a profile under the new name of my ex-wife.
She has invented a pen-name, but I thought I'd look as I'm always looking to find contact to my son.
Anyway, I looked under her 'friends' and found my son, without a profile picture.
It was weird, as I had at last found a way to contact him directly.
First I rang a few of my family and told them what had happened as I felt a bit shook up.
Of course I wanted to write him, but didn't know where to start.
I did write to him, just saying that I have loved him since the say he was born, and tried not to get too heavy.
I have not heard back, it has been 1 week since I wrote to him on Facebook.
I felt like asking all my family and friends to write to him an tell him how much I care and that I would like contact.
So far I have gotten the mother of his half-sister to write to him on Facebook, but he also hasn't answered.
My daughter hasn't written, as I think she find it all a bit too much.
Its really sickening that the years go by and your are just banished from your childs life.
What can I do?
I often feel like I need some help and advice on this as it is so emotional and I can't always think straight