RogerB
Crusader
Re: The old days - Aboard the Apollo - 1973
Yes, all brilliantly correct
It's what I observe also.
R
Good points, Rog!
About asking questions, those trained in Scio will take that to mean asking some sort of probing question designed to go down a certain path and bring about cognition in various forms. That path in scio is broadly, The Bridge. If that's the understanding, the contract, so to speak, between the parties then no harm. But in casual conversation, an unannounced, not agreed upon contract can take on the feeling of a sales pitch or downright rudeness.
So, to further define what I mean by "listen and ack," I will add that my objective of such a casual conversation is simply my understanding of what the other person is trying to say--or is saying. Their objective can be as simple as being heard and acked. That's never an issue. How odd would that be in a social setting to clarify goals for the conversation?
If they don't fully understand what the point is that they are trying to make, it is rare that I would then be able to understand. I mean, I could surmise this, that, or the other thing, but that's more than just listening and ack. I ask just enough questions to gain understanding and then we are back on track. And by not probing the person says as much as they wish and no charge gets missed.
People have two or three primary, unanswered questions that sit underneath all other curiosities and unanswered questions related to everyday living: "Who or what am I?" "Why am I here?"
This is the point: People have remarked that I surely am an intelligent person. I could easily provide evidence against that statement, and given all the people and things that I simply do not understand, it would be ludicrous to argue in favor of my own intelligence. Truth be told, all I have done prior to this remark is listen and acknowledge. People then see me as they would like to see themselves.
Simple.
P.S. Sometimes a person will realize that they have been doing all the talking so they give me a chance to say something. I figure I have about a two sentence opportunity to express myself. Then they are off originating again. There really is an imbalance of origination to acknowledgment and recognition out there.
P.P.S. Some people have a hard time finding a safe point from which to originate. They will remain quiet until they figure out what that safe point might be. During that time my silence can make people uncomfortable. You can ease the pressure they place on themselves by starting an innocuous conversation: "How about those Florida Gators this season?"
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Yes, all brilliantly correct

It's what I observe also.R





