Vinny, I still don't understand the terminology 'live unit'. What is this? Aren't private parts live too? Are you making this distinction just for the purpose of exploring people's thoughts and attitudes to, let's say it, sex?
Yes, the subject of sex still carries some taboos, and especially for women. Men can discuss tits and bums and pussies and hotties with impunity, even here on ESMB. (And I for one would not want to censure them at all) If us gals were to carry on in this fashion about, well you know .... I'm not going to spell it out ... we would I think be thought of as at least a bit crude and lacking in any kind of feminine class, for want of a better word.
The filters that I bring to this topic have transmuted over time as society has changed ... growing up through adolescence and teenage years in the late 50s/early 60s, then into the global sexual revolution of the late 60s through the 70s. Then the 80s through to the present. I can enlarge on these changes later.
I am trying to understand what you are saying here, Vinny. When you say men get impatient (and that leads to violence), I think you may be describing how men feel when sexually aroused, that beyond a certain level or arousal they find it very difficult to reign themselves even if their advances are rejected and may resort to force.
I had thought this was primarily experienced by young men, but it seems I need to review this idea.
I haven't grasped what you are getting at with respect to women and patience and biology.
Thank you, Kutta, for your interest and participation.
I visualize LIVE UNIT - PRIVATE PARTS as OBSERVER - OBSERVED. There is a fascination that binds the two in this case. There seems to be an unresolved mystery. It seems that the binding fascination will lighten up to the degree this mystery is resolved.
This mystery seems to be very fundamental to me. Freud was wrapped up in it, and he investigated it quite explicitly. Hubbard was tormented by it, but he avoided dealing with it explicitly. He just shut himself down in that area and tried to shut others down.
When one looks at these private parts, they seem to have a life their own. As La La Lou Lou said, these private parts are often given an identity of their own. They are situated in a location corresponding to the head (between the legs versus between the arms). When the private parts really become alive they take over the thinking done by the head,
To me the subject here is way more than sex. It is being overcome by a desire... it is becoming a different person... it is being taken over by a different brain. This takeover seems to be more rapid and radical with men than with women. As you can see, I am still struggling to define what is really bothering me in this area. Yes, I want to explore other people's observations in this area. Do others also feel being taken over by a different brain?
I think that the subject of sex still carries taboo because one doesn't like to lose one's identity, and which is what happens when 'private parts' take over the thinking of the head. It is like a virus getting into the rational mind, and the rational mind now starts making justification to actions that it would otherwise censor. This is the kind of virus that brings about the phenomenon of procrastination too. A similar phenomenon occurs between the sleeping and waking state.
Basically, the mind seems to switch from one level of thinking to another level, either gradually or rapidly. And it happens time and again. There seems to be two different logics co-existing side by side. The dominant logic defines our identity. It seems to be very afraid of being taken over by another identity given to it by private parts. I do not know to what degree this scenario plays out with women. I know that, in general, it applies to both men and women.
You said that men can talk about private parts with impunity even on a forum like ESMB without being frowned upon, but women can't. But I think women also do that in a different way among themselves, if not on an open forum. People discuss and laugh about those things that they are influenced by but they do not understand.
Yes, the taboos have lightened up over time, and people are more willing to look at this subject compared to before. In other words, people are more willing to look at those filters that have made this subject an uneasy one to discuss.
Basically, I am talking about one's rational thinking being infected and taken over by private parts (a secondary brain). This may happen to different degree with different people but it happens none the less. It may get suppressed but becomes explosive sooner or later. It is not just a men thing or a women thing. It is a human thing. It would be a distraction to play women versus men here, though the differences may be pointed out as well as the similarities.
My thoughts with respect to women and patience and biology are just thrown out here for brain storming purposes. I am not sure yet where this discussion might lead to. All I know is that a lot of smart brains have tried to look at this area in spite of social taboos.
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am probably quite stupid to venture in this area.
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