Frankie Greene
Patron
A parent got me into Scientology.
I blew over a year ago and let the parent know I wasn't going back.
This parent promised that nothing would keep them from speaking to me (I was never declared), and seems to be very respectful in some aspects with my decision to not be involved any longer. This parent makes sure no other Scn's are at the house when I go to visit. This parent has not given any Scn's my new phone number or address. This parent hasn't once suggested I return to the church.
However, this parent frequently tries to speak with me about Scn tech and how it is affecting their life. This parent likes to mention things LRH said and uses Scientologese with me.
I think this may be because when I left I had told this parent that I "still believed in LRH's teachings but I have had enough with the organization." This opinion has changed. I no longer feel this way. I also wish to express to this parent the hell that was being on staff and the hell that was leaving.
It is eating me up inside that my own parent, who I love very much, and who loves me very much, is still involved in a group that hurt me so badly. It eats me up inside that this parent is being continuously duped and brainwashed by this group.
I don't wish to convince this parent one way or the other about Scientology. I just need them to know. I'm even okay with acknowledging any wins they've had in Scientology, as long as they know where I'm coming from.
I am meeting with this parent's spouse soon to talk to them. This is my stepparent, but someone who has been around for over half of my life. This stepparent is not a Scientologist, and generally keeps their mouth shut about it all and lets my parent do their thing. I am speaking with my stepparent soon to let them know everything. I need my stepparent to know.
My plan is to speak with my stepparent and then get their take on how I should proceed with speaking with my parent. Then I want to speak with both of them.
I understand I am stirring the pot here. But it is something I NEED to do for my own peace of mind. I can't keep the degree to which I was damaged from my parents. I can't keep pretending like everything is OK and I came out unscathed. I may seem OK on the outside, but inside, I am changed forever.
Before I do this, I am wondering if anyone here has any advice for speaking to my (non scn) stepparent and Scn parent? I am also wondering if anyone else here has any experience with telling anyone who was still "in" their experiences? How did it go? What do you feel you did right? What would you have done differently?
Thanks in advance for the tips. This board has been a source of comfort and strength for me.
I blew over a year ago and let the parent know I wasn't going back.
This parent promised that nothing would keep them from speaking to me (I was never declared), and seems to be very respectful in some aspects with my decision to not be involved any longer. This parent makes sure no other Scn's are at the house when I go to visit. This parent has not given any Scn's my new phone number or address. This parent hasn't once suggested I return to the church.
However, this parent frequently tries to speak with me about Scn tech and how it is affecting their life. This parent likes to mention things LRH said and uses Scientologese with me.
I think this may be because when I left I had told this parent that I "still believed in LRH's teachings but I have had enough with the organization." This opinion has changed. I no longer feel this way. I also wish to express to this parent the hell that was being on staff and the hell that was leaving.
It is eating me up inside that my own parent, who I love very much, and who loves me very much, is still involved in a group that hurt me so badly. It eats me up inside that this parent is being continuously duped and brainwashed by this group.
I don't wish to convince this parent one way or the other about Scientology. I just need them to know. I'm even okay with acknowledging any wins they've had in Scientology, as long as they know where I'm coming from.
I am meeting with this parent's spouse soon to talk to them. This is my stepparent, but someone who has been around for over half of my life. This stepparent is not a Scientologist, and generally keeps their mouth shut about it all and lets my parent do their thing. I am speaking with my stepparent soon to let them know everything. I need my stepparent to know.
My plan is to speak with my stepparent and then get their take on how I should proceed with speaking with my parent. Then I want to speak with both of them.
I understand I am stirring the pot here. But it is something I NEED to do for my own peace of mind. I can't keep the degree to which I was damaged from my parents. I can't keep pretending like everything is OK and I came out unscathed. I may seem OK on the outside, but inside, I am changed forever.
Before I do this, I am wondering if anyone here has any advice for speaking to my (non scn) stepparent and Scn parent? I am also wondering if anyone else here has any experience with telling anyone who was still "in" their experiences? How did it go? What do you feel you did right? What would you have done differently?
Thanks in advance for the tips. This board has been a source of comfort and strength for me.