Kathy (ImOut)
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Alanzo
Typing is going to be difficult tonight, since my left hand is messed up and I'm basically typing with only two fingers on my left hand and all 5 on my right hand. So, excuse my typos.
First, my counselor is awesome. She has not once tried to evaluate for me. She is not into getting patients on drugs. She in fact tries to get patients off drugs when she can. She knows quite a bit about Scn - which means I don't have to explain a lot of stuff.
We truly haven't gotten into any of my issues yet. We first did an hour meet and greet and she got the quick basic reasons I was interested in counseling - abandonment and abuse from my mother, mother dying when I was still relatively young and recovering from Scn. (Nothing I did in Scn addressed the issues with my mother - in fact she rarely came up in session.)
Then she had me do the Myers-Briggs personality test. The test is used in business a lot for promoting and placing employees in the position that's best for their personality. She did NOT tell me how I ranked/rated. She described the two traits per the four different areas and let me come to my own conclusions. If I couldn't figure it out - she would ask me key questions that would pin point my trait. When I got the book that described my personality - it couldn't have been more spot on.
Last week we went over the nine (9) defense mechanisms - each person fits into one of the nine. I'm sure you could have degrees of the others, but you truly fall into one category. I found mine as she described the nine to me. I got the book today from the library that goes into details about it and the 1st paragraph was 100% spot on. The book is called: Enneagram, Understanding people in your life. By Helen Parker.
Today we spent 2 hours going over my life history. We didn't finish. There's a lot to cover. When the 2 hours were up, my counselor asked how I was doing, since I don't go over my life history every day. Actually, last year I wrote the story of the 19 years I was in Scn. So I asked how she was doing after hearing my story, since I'm sort of used to going over my life story to some degree on what seems like a fairly regular basis. LOL!!!
So next week, we hope to finish my life story. And the following week we'll get into "fixing" my issues. I have no clue what to expect or how it'll all play out. I think there is art therapy involved since she has drawing pads and baskets of markers on the table next to where I sit.
I am expecting a lot of tears. A few times today while sharing my story I almost cried. I know the ex-SO kids went thru a lot. But honestly, I went thru abandonment, abuse and molestation not in the SO - just because I had crappy parents. So we all have our stories about what we put up with as kids. And I do envy those kids that had fairly sane parents.
I'll keep posting about this, if anyone is interested. It won't be daily since I only see my counselor once a week.
I still have the same issues I had before Scn. The only thing the Scn did for me was get me out of being "serious". And that may have just been getting older.
Today I spend two hours with my counselor giving her my "history". Then we'll start "fixing" my issues. The next several months should be pretty interesting.
Alanzo
You should start a thread on it, I'm Out!
Give us updates on all the drugs and electro-shock and lobotomies they give you!
Typing is going to be difficult tonight, since my left hand is messed up and I'm basically typing with only two fingers on my left hand and all 5 on my right hand. So, excuse my typos.
First, my counselor is awesome. She has not once tried to evaluate for me. She is not into getting patients on drugs. She in fact tries to get patients off drugs when she can. She knows quite a bit about Scn - which means I don't have to explain a lot of stuff.
We truly haven't gotten into any of my issues yet. We first did an hour meet and greet and she got the quick basic reasons I was interested in counseling - abandonment and abuse from my mother, mother dying when I was still relatively young and recovering from Scn. (Nothing I did in Scn addressed the issues with my mother - in fact she rarely came up in session.)
Then she had me do the Myers-Briggs personality test. The test is used in business a lot for promoting and placing employees in the position that's best for their personality. She did NOT tell me how I ranked/rated. She described the two traits per the four different areas and let me come to my own conclusions. If I couldn't figure it out - she would ask me key questions that would pin point my trait. When I got the book that described my personality - it couldn't have been more spot on.
Last week we went over the nine (9) defense mechanisms - each person fits into one of the nine. I'm sure you could have degrees of the others, but you truly fall into one category. I found mine as she described the nine to me. I got the book today from the library that goes into details about it and the 1st paragraph was 100% spot on. The book is called: Enneagram, Understanding people in your life. By Helen Parker.
Today we spent 2 hours going over my life history. We didn't finish. There's a lot to cover. When the 2 hours were up, my counselor asked how I was doing, since I don't go over my life history every day. Actually, last year I wrote the story of the 19 years I was in Scn. So I asked how she was doing after hearing my story, since I'm sort of used to going over my life story to some degree on what seems like a fairly regular basis. LOL!!!
So next week, we hope to finish my life story. And the following week we'll get into "fixing" my issues. I have no clue what to expect or how it'll all play out. I think there is art therapy involved since she has drawing pads and baskets of markers on the table next to where I sit.
I am expecting a lot of tears. A few times today while sharing my story I almost cried. I know the ex-SO kids went thru a lot. But honestly, I went thru abandonment, abuse and molestation not in the SO - just because I had crappy parents. So we all have our stories about what we put up with as kids. And I do envy those kids that had fairly sane parents.
I'll keep posting about this, if anyone is interested. It won't be daily since I only see my counselor once a week.