Well, my immigrant visa has been issued and I am booked to arrive in New Hampshire at midnight August 5. I will stay with Denise and go along with her to the SP party in Connecticut which finishes August 11 I think. And yes, I am so jealous of their road trip!! It is such a cool idea - so American!!
So I honestly don't know what I will do after the SP party. At some stage I will have to make my way back to North Carolina where most of my stuff is in storage. But that's weird as well - to not be with my ex but still kind of in contact with him is quite weird and destabilising.
Like I think, maybe I could do this, and then I think, no, he wouldn't approve. Then I think but I'm nearly fifty and we've been broken up for four months - although we did do the wild thing a few times when I stayed there. But we didn't un-breakup or anything. We both knew it was still over. So, yeah, I don't know. It's all terribly confusing. It was good to do that and realise well I'm not in love with him now - and it was kind of hot because I just didn't care anymore if he thought I was a "slut" or whatever. But why do I still feel answerable to him, like a child in kindergarten? Why do I still care if he respects me or not?
These are the questions that have been haunting me the last few days as I try to decide what to do next, along with

am I serious about this... what the HELL am I doing??