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First, I want to say that I found your post wonderful and lovely. It actually gave me a warm feeling. You sound like a wonderful mother, and your daughter is very fortunate.
I did feel compelled, however, to address the single sentence quoted above. I found I felt very conflicted when I read that sentence. Normally, and particularly when I'm in a state of ignorance, the "live and let live" sentiment conveyed in that sentence is very much my philosophy. Indeed, it would be much more comfortable for me, personally, if that could still be my philosophy re: Scientology.
The problem is that I'm no longer ignorant, and hence no longer innocent. I know better.
So when I read about somebody being "ok" with their friends, family members, etc. being involved in, and more importantly supporting (even if monetarily) Scientology it causes me some... disquiet. A concern that they are involved, even if only tangentially, and supporting, even if only monetarily, well... evil. That the money paid goes to pay the PIs that harass people. That the money pays for shrill, delusional advertisements aimed at convincing people not to get medical care. That the money pays for, and supports, those who order and enforce family disconnection, coercive and deceptive financial practices, and the offloading of the ill and infirm.
The idea of being harsh towards either your or your daughter is very troubling to me. Everybody has a right to make up their own mind, and indeed a duty to do so. I hate being judgmental.
But there are other considerations. There are victims.
I totally understand what you are saying above. I agree with you. But I also believe that people need to learn for themselves about Scn. My daughter is not about to start pushing her viewpoints on to others about Scn. She wasn't brought up that way. I taught her "live and let live". I think she will make a better impression on her friends by achieving her goals without the aid of Scn and her friends will start to recognize that and will eventually have their own realizations. In the meantime, she is accepting of their choices. And she taught them to accept her choice to not be a Scn. To me, that is much more valuable than her telling them all about the evils of Scn.
I had to realize the evils of Scn on my own. I know for certain that if anyone had tried to talk to me about it, I would have not enjoyed it. I know a lot of us would like to scream it from roof tops, the evils of Scn, but until someone realizes it for themselves, I don't think it would do much good to scream from the roof tops.
The few protests I saw after Lisa M. died, I was totally convinced that the protesters were just "bad" people. After many years I saw the "light". And that is a process an individual has to take on their own. Otherwise, we become like the CofS by enforcing our realities onto others.