I often wonder myself how to get someone out without this type of force them out routine. I wish there was something I could say to make them realize what they are missing out on in the outside world without it coming across as a lecture. Like for example if a person could make them realize there are freedoms they don't have, like the ability to take a vacation somewhere or have kids or go out to eat, etc. Or if I could send them a gift card to a local restaurant and they would realize that they could never do this if it weren't given to them and that there is something inherently wrong with that. It bugs me, I always try to think of what I could say, but can never come up with something good.