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Reasonable

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I came here looking for some answers. I got a few, but I am basically coming away with frustration and disgust more than anything. You guys claim to be EX Scientologists but a majority of you still defend this bat shit crazy cult. Claire got all bent out of shape when I suggested that clay demos are playing with clay. I'm sorry. There is no fucking way that I am going to be forced or coerced or tricked or talked into doing anything I don't want to and that includes making clay images to explain what I understand. I don't give a shit what happened in my past life. David and I talked about this the other night. I told him that because he is so attached to the ideas of a Marxist, Satanic lunatic and so obsessed with "looking" at why he does things, that he cannot be in the now and STOP doing the things he does. He is trapped in the past. He also tries to feed me this bullshit that I create everything. The whole point is that believing that everything is created by an individual and to take responsibility for everything that I create only takes away one's power to create something different. I don't create things, I see things different. I might hate my job, but see it as lucky because there are many people out there that don't have jobs, and no matter how crappy my job may be, I can still provide for my family. Things are really not that bad. That feels so much better than saying "Well, I created this shitty job, so I have to take responsibility." Do you see how that attitude leaves you in a place unable to change anything?
Scientology is a concept born with the sole INTENT to enslave, to make people do things, anything that the fair leader or leaders want them to, even if this so called tech "works", it only does because it is doing exactly what it was intended to do, take your money and control you. That is IT. There is no enlightenment. There is no bridge to total freedom. There are no body thetans. There are no SP's. There was a paranoid schizophrenic who had a desire and a plan to enslave people, and he did and there is a man, DM who is evil and sadistic and gets pleasure out of torture, humiliation, and control of others. Who in the fuck would defend any of this? Why do you people defend this insanity! Some of you are really nice and seem to have abandoned completely, but some of you still talk your sciospeak, and defend this crippled, evil ideology. Why? Don't you understand that its crazy? Tell you what, pick up a copy of Das Capital by Carl Marx, and tell me if you see any similarities to LRH's writing. How about the Unibomber's manifesto? It is rambling. It is coming from the mind of someone mentally unstable. Get it? Put down your fucking E meters! Don't try and pick this stuff apart anymore! Scientology is a FRAUD! It is a SCAM! It is a LIE! All of it! Wake up people! Shit!

I don't see things as black and white. There are shades of grey and many other colors.
A knife can kill, it can cut food it is just a tool.

People have many sides. Presidents have affairs. They are not all good nor all bad.

Newtonian physics can't explain sub atomic physics. Does that make Newtonian physics wrong?

Can a doctor also be a rapist? Yes. But he still may be able to remove your gallbladder.

Can a schizophrenic be a great mathematician?

That is why I think there is good and bad in Scientology. I think it is in how you use it. It is in which parts of it you decide to use or not.

It is too big a subject to call it "all" a fraud, a scam a lie. That is like saying medicine is "all" a scam, fraud and a lie. Some of it is , some of it isn't.

When I read your post I thought:
• You have an incredible need to control people (like your boyfriend)
• You won't let him out of your relationship (like Scientology doesn't want people to leave)
• Your opinions are based on what you have heard. (like a Scientologist believes what Hubbard says about psychology)
• You believe your opinion is fact.
• Everything is black or white.
• You blow things out of proportion ( Claire was not "bent out of shape-but you clearly are)
• You think everyone should agree with you.
• When people don't agree with you then you get more loud and more angry and use profanity
• You think you are an expert on things you know very little about.
• You cannot even conceive how anyone could possibly have a different opinion than yours.
You sound like a Scientologist to me.

You say you are disappointed in us because we seem not to agree with you.
You asked us what you should do about your boyfriend.
Most of us said to cut him loose, but you don't like that answer, s
o now you are disappointed in us.
You seem like a really controlling person who doesn't listen. You should sign up for the Sea Org.
 

Michele_B

Patron
I don't think that I'm controlling and as far as my relationship with David, he can leave anytime he wants, but he stays because we love each other. I don't give my spiritual opinions and beliefs because they belong to ME. I don't care what anyone thinks, unlike Scientologists who will scream, threaten, name call, and everything else if you criticize Scientology in any way. As a matter of fact, attacking those that are against Scientology is a part of the religion. I don't abandon my child, or my responsibilities in order to become an indoctrinated puppet to L Ron and his clan. It seems to me that Scientologist that are in lack simple common sense. I am sorry if you don't like me. I don't really care. But to assume that you know me, or know about my relationship, well that is either personal or presumptuious. Now, why would you make this personal I wonder?....
 

NoName

A Girl Has No Name
I can only speak for myself when I say this. What I found offensive was the suggestion that I need to put down my e-meter and get a life. I don't think that anyone was defending Scno or indicating a belief in it. Most of us agree that it is a batshit crazy cult. But we're willing to explain the tech - even the weird stuff - and what we thought we were accomplishing before we concluded it was batshit crazy.

If you think that makes us apologists, I would suggest word clearing tech for the word "apologist".
 

This is NOT OK !!!!

Gold Meritorious Patron
You guys claim to be EX Scientologists but a majority of you still defend this bat shit crazy cult.

You know this isn't true. I don't think there's been one person who's posted on this thread who has defended the cult. I just read the whole thing. :nervous:

Who in the fuck would defend any of this? Why do you people defend this insanity!

Ask Terril :hysterical:

Scientology is a FRAUD! It is a SCAM! It is a LIE! All of it! Wake up people! Shit

WE are the ones who are EX-Scientologists.

YOU are the one living with a Scientologist.

YOU WAKE UP!
 

Michele_B

Patron
Cakemaker, that was mean
NoName, I was making a generalization about the emeters, not directed at you.
ThisIsNotOK, this is exactly what I am talking about. Attack Attack Attack! I want to help people, same as you. I want to help David and I am trying every day. Things have improved since I started coming here. It is difficult for him to argue facts.
Something really important happened the other night, a major break, but I'll let all of this attacking blow over first before I continue.
 

This is NOT OK !!!!

Gold Meritorious Patron
I’m not attacking you.

By the way, it's a standard Scientology ethics handling trick to convince one of their members that not agreeing is an attack. You may have noticed this when dealing with David.

So while I disagree with you on some of your statements on this thread, it's not an attack.

My 2 cents, for what it's worth is to create some physical distance (living arrangements) between yourself and David while you work things out. If the love is truly there, it won't go away.

Good luck.
 

Michele_B

Patron
OK. You guys are worked up. Let me just tell you guys what happened recently and maybe some of you might understand, or have had some experience.
One thing that I never understood is why the point of engrams or past injuries is such a big deal when someone in this lifetime suffered severe trauma but those incidences are rarely address and if they are, the time taken on them is minimal. David suffered severe burns when he was about 3 years old. He has a large disfigurement on his chest from this accident. I have had a 3rd degree burn myself and I know how bad the pain is and the treatment may be even more painful than the injury itself. He spent 5 months in the hospital. Scientology/Dianetics never dealt with this. Why? He spent his childhood and then early adulthood hiding his scar. He was self conscious for a long time because of this, but the Cult never helped him but spent hours on his engrams a billion years ago. Why is this life so insignificant? Also, he lost his mother about 17 years ago very suddenly and unexpectedly. The events during and following her death were very unpleasant for him and he never got to grieve for her or deal with the events that followed. Scientology didn't care. The other night, he was talking about an incident that happened between him and his mother and started to tear up. I got him to talk about his mom. I told him that it is OK to remember her, to grieve for her. He did cry, for the first time ever. He let everything out, was able to be sad about her being gone, able to talk about their relationship and his feelings. What a huge deal for him, this emotionless Scientologist! It is things like this that makes me so angry about Scientology. I don't see how it helps at all. Things happen in our lives, this life that has an effect on us and who we are. Why doesn't Scientology address these things?
 

TheRealNoUser

Patron with Honors
Answers to your questions:

1. Scientology addresses the "basic on the chain". This means that they believe that traumatic incidents are recorded in a fashion where they are stored in a manner of being categorized by similarities. Thus, when finding a traumatic incident during auditing they will use a process of finding earlier/similar incidents until they find the "basic" on the chain, at which point all the charge on the subsequent incidents gets erased. This is why "this-lifetime" incidents can be unimportant to a Sci-Borg.

I know this sounds like horseshit to your average person (and it is), but you said you wanted answers, and this is why they do what they do.

2. Scientologists rarely show emotion because they believe in "rising above the bank". This means they want to show their "reactive mind" who's the boss by being assertive over it.

Same explanation as above.

You sound like a nice person, and you're getting small but significant results with him in breaking thru the barriers. How long has he been "in"? He sounds pretty much fully indoctrinated, and your chances of getting thru to him are slim to none. It seems you want to keep going however. I hope it either works, or you just GTFO.

WARNING: You are getting "interested" in understanding his erratic behavior. To do this you are essentially wanting to understand Scientology. This is a very dangerous precedent, as that is how they pull you in. Watch out.
 

This is NOT OK !!!!

Gold Meritorious Patron
I think you've pointed out a big flaw in Dianetics vs. how the mind really works. I'm not going to explain how Dianetics works one way or another because I don't believe it accomplishes its claims.

Your exaample of not allowing room for good old fashoned grieving is a great example and No Users explaination for what Scientologist do do - distracting themselves from grief (because it's "low-toned") is spot on.

As the saying goes - "If it's Scientology it doesn't make sense".
 
I came here looking for some answers. I got a few, but I am basically coming away with frustration and disgust more than anything. You guys claim to be EX Scientologists but a majority of you still defend this bat shit crazy cult. Claire got all bent out of shape when I suggested that clay demos are playing with clay. I'm sorry. There is no fucking way that I am going to be forced or coerced or tricked or talked into doing anything I don't want to and that includes making clay images to explain what I understand. I don't give a shit what happened in my past life. David and I talked about this the other night. I told him that because he is so attached to the ideas of a Marxist, Satanic lunatic and so obsessed with "looking" at why he does things, that he cannot be in the now and STOP doing the things he does. He is trapped in the past. He also tries to feed me this bullshit that I create everything. The whole point is that believing that everything is created by an individual and to take responsibility for everything that I create only takes away one's power to create something different. I don't create things, I see things different. I might hate my job, but see it as lucky because there are many people out there that don't have jobs, and no matter how crappy my job may be, I can still provide for my family. Things are really not that bad. That feels so much better than saying "Well, I created this shitty job, so I have to take responsibility." Do you see how that attitude leaves you in a place unable to change anything?
Scientology is a concept born with the sole INTENT to enslave, to make people do things, anything that the fair leader or leaders want them to, even if this so called tech "works", it only does because it is doing exactly what it was intended to do, take your money and control you. That is IT. There is no enlightenment. There is no bridge to total freedom. There are no body thetans. There are no SP's. There was a paranoid schizophrenic who had a desire and a plan to enslave people, and he did and there is a man, DM who is evil and sadistic and gets pleasure out of torture, humiliation, and control of others. Who in the fuck would defend any of this? Why do you people defend this insanity! Some of you are really nice and seem to have abandoned completely, but some of you still talk your sciospeak, and defend this crippled, evil ideology. Why? Don't you understand that its crazy? Tell you what, pick up a copy of Das Capital by Carl Marx, and tell me if you see any similarities to LRH's writing. How about the Unibomber's manifesto? It is rambling. It is coming from the mind of someone mentally unstable. Get it? Put down your fucking E meters! Don't try and pick this stuff apart anymore! Scientology is a FRAUD! It is a SCAM! It is a LIE! All of it! Wake up people! Shit!

Amen, Sister! :thumbsup:

Bottom line for me is David needs real world professional counseling on two levels. To address real life issues of trauma and loss from his past, and how to manage his life, emotions, relationships, etc. better and more easily. Additionally, he needs some cult exit counseling to help him get rid of the damage that COS has done to him.

Your training will help you to be a better partner to him and to support and encourage him along on his own healing journey, but you can't be his counselor. You know from your training that a duel nature relationship like that is not therapeutic...but you can help assist him to find counseling. Maybe start with a group or couples counseling?

I agree that creating a safe space for him to begin to grieve the loss of his Mo4her is huge. Now follow it up by facilitating getting him the professional help he needs. Lead by example, if you must.

I also remind you to honor his boundaries in sharing details of his personal story.

Big hug to you both!
 
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Got cut off before I could say, big hugs to you both, I love what you are trying to do. I know how hard it is from my own life.

Good luck with taking it to the next level. :)
 

solo

Patron with Honors
OK. You guys are worked up. Let me just tell you guys what happened recently and maybe some of you might understand, or have had some experience.
One thing that I never understood is why the point of engrams or past injuries is such a big deal when someone in this lifetime suffered severe trauma but those incidences are rarely address and if they are, the time taken on them is minimal. David suffered severe burns when he was about 3 years old. He has a large disfigurement on his chest from this accident. I have had a 3rd degree burn myself and I know how bad the pain is and the treatment may be even more painful than the injury itself. He spent 5 months in the hospital. Scientology/Dianetics never dealt with this. Why? He spent his childhood and then early adulthood hiding his scar. He was self conscious for a long time because of this, but the Cult never helped him but spent hours on his engrams a billion years ago. Why is this life so insignificant? Also, he lost his mother about 17 years ago very suddenly and unexpectedly. The events during and following her death were very unpleasant for him and he never got to grieve for her or deal with the events that followed. Scientology didn't care. The other night, he was talking about an incident that happened between him and his mother and started to tear up. I got him to talk about his mom. I told him that it is OK to remember her, to grieve for her. He did cry, for the first time ever. He let everything out, was able to be sad about her being gone, able to talk about their relationship and his feelings. What a huge deal for him, this emotionless Scientologist! It is things like this that makes me so angry about Scientology. I don't see how it helps at all. Things happen in our lives, this life that has an effect on us and who we are. Why doesn't Scientology address these things?

Hi Michele,

it seems to me that whatever was done for David in Scientology it didn't help him to come to terms with the loss of his mother or his injuries. Maybe you can help him to see this?

Otherwise, yes, try and get him some professional counselling. If you're there for the long haul, try to understand what he has gone through, but don't get sucked in yourself.

Easier said than done. Please keep talking here so we can help,

Solo
 

The_Fixer

Class Clown
I've only reached post #71 at the moment. Very interesting thread.

Meditation was frowned upon by the church in my experience. A friend of mine at the time (1977?) tried to join the Sea Org and was told that because he had been involved in meditation in itself was a barrier to membership in the SO. It was also a barrier to getting auditing. He must have been wanted, because he had to do a few bits and pieces and was signed up.

He had also taken LSD and done forms of psychotherapy (specifically primal scream therapy), all automatic diqualification points for joining the Sea Org. He had disclosed this to the church at the time. But as I said, they must have wanted him for some reason. I think he is still a scio today, but off lines now.

Any other folks here remember the rules involved here? Or has it all changed?

In my opinion I think one reason past life experiences were not to be discussed is straightforward. If it is pretty delusional stuff, it would stand to reason that there would be many instances of people claiming to be Ceaser, Napoloen, Jesus, et al in session. Or anyone else famous in history.

Couldn't have anyone going public with those conflicts, could we?
 

NoName

A Girl Has No Name
One of the most toxic things about Dn/Scn, in my opinion, is that it claims to be helping people come to terms with trauma/unwanted emotions. But what it really does is teach people how to suppress their emotions and feelings (including any sense of conscience). In that regard, it's nearly impossible to get away completely unscathed.

I'll leave it to those who had been more fully indoctrinated to tell you how to introduce the idea of a therapist. The thing is, the Co$ teaches that you'll get lobotomies and shock therapy if you go to any therapist outside the Co$. David will almost certainly have a phobia of them. I'm not saying it's a bad idea to get him therapy, and I'm not defending the Co$ for instilling fear of REAL mental health professionals. I just think you need to introduce the idea carefully, because there may be a pretty deep rooted phobia there.
 

Michele_B

Patron
I can pretty much guarantee you that a therapist of any kind is out of the question at this point. I'm at baby steps right now. I appreciate the encouragement Sweetness, and I also appreciate the warning. Trust me. I am not getting involved in Scientology. I don't have the money or the time and I am not spending 4 hours in a sauna and overdosing on vitamins. Well, that counts me out. And my best friend is a CHT and she is unable hyptmotize me, not even a little. So I'm out there too. And I refuse to have a stranger or anyone other than me to tuck my daughter into bed at night. That counts me out too. And I think David Miscavige is an evil, wicked bastard who deserves to have the life beaten out of him. I hope his cellie beats him to a pulp. So I'm not falling for it. I'm working on clearing scientology from my home, my family, and my life forever. That is my goal.
 
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