There have been some wonderful posts here, and I agree with FTS, that when Scn has been a large part of your life, it can take a long time to move it into history, and leave it there.
As has already been said, that should not mean moving friends, people we loved etc into history.
I believe that for 30 something years, I did leave it all behind and moved into life.
My husband called part of that early process - "re-entry" back into mainstream life, and it often felt like it, a shock to do "normal" things, have lots more cash, have success and life, friends, leisure, possessions and jobs that paid so well!
However, lucky as I was to have a partner who was also an Ex Scn and we spent years discussing every angle, looking at psychology and getting our lives on track - I fully appreciate having read this forum, (that I happened across one night recently), how very difficult people find it.
I can only offer my own experience, and part of what really helped me and my partner was to locate and and take a long, cold look at the hook..
This can be very painful but it is what was used to get us into Scn - not all regges/div 6 were skilled at finding our "ruin", some of us already knew what we felt was hindering our lives or making them less than perfect (and perfectionism does play a part sometimes) some people no doubt had truly altruistic desires to save the planet.... but
we usually knew what it was, from needing to be accepted, have a group or family, that
wanted us, to a special problem with our confidence, relationships, trying not to be gay etc etc etc.....
I believe that to start the release process, you must find and confront
that issue (YOUR issue) then work out why it is there maybe, where it originally came from, and how you will resolve that issue without Scn - which was never going to resolve it anyway, really. There ARE ways in the real world.
I know you may not all agree and I stress again, this was my experience and it helped.
It was not easy, and everyone needs help along the way - sometimes good professional help, or sometimes just acceptance, that we are none of us perfect, we are what we are, and acceptance is eventually a happier route...
Many people here need support and reassurance and only they will know when they can move on. when they reach that point - they should move on.
Given with good intentions....