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It's not just people born in who have that issue.
I was only in for 15 years and I've struggled with this too.
I think it has something to do with it being unconscious - it is not aimed indoctrination, it is created by the culture around us and because we do not notice it we never question it and so it takes a long time for it to reach a level where we notice it.
Why do I always preface my remarks in conversation by pointing out that I may not be fair? Why do sometimes feel I should apologize for asking for help? My wife will still single out a "generality" as something bad. The list has been long, minor and annoying. I cannot begin to imagine what it must be like for those brought up in it. The unspoken, unknown assumptions must be like little rocks ready to fall on the head.
Maybe it would be fun to learn what others have run into in this regard because I think that THIS, much more than the overt BS like Problems of Work, is what holds us back.