I have a significant other who is in the cult. I agree that Scn creates a lot of problems. The thing is, there is so much pressure on these people, and I think that (aside from the mindfuck) the continued stress has to lead to elevated cortisol levels and other stress hormones that eventually take a toll on the human body.
Yanno, it's funny. I know these things. But when I go to the org I can't see them. Everyone seems so chipper. I wonder, all the time, what they are really thinking.
Um yeah. I dunno if he gets told to handle me or what. Or maybe the mindfuck of being there just makes him want to withdraw? Or maybe all of the above?
The thing is, not even the best Scno with their TR's in can keep up the charade. Human behavior can be manipulated. You can turn the game back on them. Scn gets a fair amount if its power from principles of reciprocity. I smile at you and say hi, you tend to react with something friendly. I was being positive and proactive ion my kindness, and you were reacting. Reciprocity also works the other way. If I pass you on the street and say, "Watch where you're fucking going," you are likely to react in kind.
But what would happen if I said, "Watch where you're fucking going!" and you smiled at me and said, "Oh, you must be having a bad day, I am so sorry!" Most people couldn't continue to be mean to you at that point. Or if they tried, it would take a tremendous amount of psychological effort to do so.
True. A technique I use all the time - especially at work.
I've used these techniques on my in friend (in addition to the techniques that Hassan suggests). I can't tell you how many times the guy has tried to disconnect from me. The disconnections are, at best, temporary and insincere.
That makes sense. We have a family member who is often in a temporary state of shunnedness. Of late it's been more off than on, though.
Finally, keep track of your finances. Carefully. I would probably buy up a bunch of gold and stash it in a safe deposit box. Then I would rent a second safe deposit box to stash the key from the first safe deposit box, and sew the key to the second safe deposit box into my mattress. But I'm extremely paranoid, having been cleaned out by a dishonest ex's dishonest business partner. Nothing to do with Scn, but I've been burned so badly that I would consider what you're doing just the baseline level of paranoia for future marriage. If I marry someone in (not likely, since rumor has it I'm Declared), the paranoia would be through the roof.
Thanks for the warning. I do. I too have been burned by past experiences with unscrupulous people and partners. My assets are not available. I've made very sure of that because of my past. I guess those experiences helped keep me safe(r) in this marriage.