Gees, Gad, that is awful. So what happened after you were declared? Ya can't leave us hanging like this . . .
What happened? The usual typical Scientology nonsense "happened".
My children both disconnected from me. You know, "disconnection", the practice that Scientology PR spokespeople will state "does not exist".
But, to make a long story short (as I have expained all this before), my daughter did leave the Sea Org. She was "sent" to New Mexico to be FAR AWAY from Clearwater and me. But, within a few years she moved back to Clearwater, despite the urgings of the Sea Org for her not to. Realize that whenever a Sea Org member "routes out", they try to get them to "move far away" because it is "enturbulating for the extant SO staff to see and contact ex-Sea Org members".
And, by about 2003, my daughter had gotten back in comm with me, and was living at my home. That was funny, because for awhile there her Scientology friends would pick her up at my house (not realizing that her declared SP dad lived there). But, eventually Flag got wind that she was in contact with her SP father, and they tried to get her to come in for a "handling". She wouldn't even answer their phone calls and messages. So, after awhile she got declared as an SP too!
All her Scientology "friends" quickly vanished. There was much about all of it that was very upsetting to her (at the time). She is quite over it all now. She just thinks they are all a bunch of assholes - which they ARE!
And, of course, though the ONLY real reason for her getting declared was because she refused to
disconnect from me, they padded her SP Declare with all sorts of OTHER nonsense. She cared so little about Scientology by that point that I don't think she even bothered to read the
Goldenrod that was sent to her.
My son also routed out of the Sea Org around 2004, but he has remained disconnected for the most part from both of us. He contacts my daughter every once in awhile, generally through e-mail, but we haven't seen him in at least 10 years! That sucks. But THAT IS SCIENTOLOGY! :confused2:
I mean, I could get all worked up about it, I suppose, but I do "practice what I preach" when it comes to the Buddhist ideas of
non-attachment. On a certain level concern and attention for anything, including a family member, is a
consideration and involves
ones OWN mental attachment to the idea. Such attachments are an activity of a thinking mind. For the most part I just let all things like that go. I don't suppress it or repress it, and I really do just "move on". I don't "contribute to the mental mock-up".
But, I am very aware of and feel the
pain of others who have had
their families ripped apart through the inane behavior brought about by following Hubbard's idiotic ideas and policies.
For the most part I feel like I am a quiet observer in a world filled with excessive pain and suffering, and while I myself can and have somewhat of an ability to "let it all go", for me at least, I am also filled at times with the immense pain and suffering of
others - that happens sometimes when one manages to connect to others through compassion and understanding.
From the viewpoint of an
eternal being, getting overly stuck on the events, situations and forces of any tiny moment in time seems a bit
. . . . . unwarranted? Unnecessary? Inappropriate?
But, I most certainly understand how many of us can and do "get stuck" in such moments.
That is what makes us human (and
not "eternal").