MissWog
Silver Meritorious Patron
I have soooo many questions and this is only post 6 in 4 pages.. Ut-Oh!Ohmigod, that reminds me of a funny story!
In 1981 I was a young SO woman with raging hormones looking for a husband (because we could only have sex if married).
I had a mad crush on a public and oh oh OH could he kiss! There was a good chance he was joining the SO, and I was madly infatuated. Since he was public, the C/O AOLA, Ivan Obolensky, was less than impressed, and tried telling me in the nicest way possible that this was not a good idea unless he joined.
At the time, there was no written rule against marriage with non-SO, so when I discovered it was severely frowned upon, I was pretty dismayed. But I wasn't giving up yet.
The young man was more than a bit disappointed about the SO rules about sex and asked if we could masturbate in front of each other?
I was only young, had never done that, so that didn't happen, either. I didn't even know if it was allowed or not. I think so, though.
Then the man tells me, all excited, that he'd joined the Sea Org at FLAG!!! He thought we could be together.
I had to explain to him that there was no way the SO would allow us to be together.
Much later, when I got married to someone else, (and we didn't have sexual relations before marriage, either), guess what came up in our sec checks?
Masturbation. That about floored me.
So in '82 it wasn't exactly against the rules, but because we didn't know exactly what the rules were and actual sexual intercourse was wrong, I guess it came up in sec checks anyway, but I think this is one more thing we can blame on DM.
Sheila, from what you describe here.. Bible thumping Christians are the same way (I have hang ups from grandma).. Pretty sickening how they make self exploration and mutual exploration dirty.. You, me & a bottle of wine or pot of tea and we could girl talk this for hours.