Hello Pixie. Welcome to the sandbox. I'm learning so much more about myself now that I am able to think and look and say what I think and see.
I find myself today kind of looking for what I liked about Scientolgy. :confused2: Wondering what I will miss. Trying to analyze the loss part of getting out.
I've handled one of the things that I had to complete before coming fully out and the other will be done any day now. I'm getting more anxious to just tell you all exactly who I am. I'm not worried about being declared (been there) or being fair gamed (done that).
I'm not gonna miss the constant phone calls, or the continuously being made guilty for not doing enough or not winning enough and if you assert that you are winning having someone slam you or drive in your anchor points to prove to you that you aren't truly happy. I'm not even going to miss the friendships.
I still care about the people I care about and they care about me, even if it is in their own way.
I was afraid I would lose my enthusiasm for life my feeling of wonder and awe at the universe the desire to reach out and explore all of life.
But I truthfully feel like I have that more now then when I was in. I can get processing if I want to but won't be made guilty if I don't want to.
There are people out here that understand me more completely then any of the people still in. Some of you guys know all of the places and people that are part of my journey. That's amazing. Not many Scientologists inside that share that with me anymore. I've decided I may have to get myself deadfiled. That's pretty easy to do. (easier then getting declared) That will keep people from trying to recover me. It's just funny to me now to think that I was trying to cross "The Bridge to Total Freedom" and total freedom is just outside the door. Remember the pretty rocks we were taught not to look at? Well, they really are the way out!
So, I'm not really sad, just mildly perplexed.
I'm also more willing to talk about the good times I had while in. I'm sort of exploring what the value of the experience was rather then the damage of the experience. Of course there was pain. There was loss. There was tons of injustice. But I'm pretty sure there is lots of that outside of Scientology as well. I realize that I may not be "whole". I have some weird and hard to define missing components for dealing with "real life". But I'm okay with that for now. I guess it kinda like I figure everything I bought, I also sold. My intentions were good or maybe not so good. It doesn't really matter. I could say "Wow I wasted 30 years, buying and selling Scientology, and didn't get what I intended". Or maybe I did. Again, it doesn't matter. I could have wasted the last 30 years playing video games or selling used cars or obsessing over my kids or trying to strike gold, or whatever.
The funny or sad or ironic part is I've learned more about Scientology since being on this message board for a couple of months then I did studying it for three decades from inside. The people I originally "bought it" from have been out for some time. Many of the people I "sold it to" are still in.
Anyway, I just felt like rambling a bit tonight. In my story I've covered my franchise years in the mission network. I will cover the Missions under SMI and the Mission Birthday Game years next.
Good Twin