DT, your first post finally got me to join this forum, this is also my first post after lurking for a very long time. You are an wonderful son and so glad you are in school now after such a hard travelled road. Husband and I have been out for almost 9 yrs. now, we were on staff at the same org as you and your mother but at different times. But, this post is about you and your mother, maybe my story another time. I read your story with tears, as I have heard your story many times before from your mother. Yes, I am the person she came to visit for a few days last summer and the one that has spoken to you several times in the past year in my attempt to contact her when she fell off my radar. It took alot to post your story and I hope you continue, it is theraputic, you will heal. It took us awhile, but we made it as will you. Please keep reading this and other forums, they will speed the healing process, they were a life saver for me. This is my thanks to all at exscn, for your understanding and kindness to others and your exposure of the truth about the COS. DT, I have not heard from your mother in awhile but your post reassures us she is doing well. I really did lose her new phone number!! You both have come such a long way and it only gets better and better and better and better.