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My own little life in the CofS


This is my first post - it's very encouraging to find people opening up about their experiences.

My two sisters and I were born into it all - both parents were at various times members of staff at Sydney Foundation in the 80's and 90's and the three of us were constantly running around the org, which was almost a second home.

When we were old enough, my sisters and I began on the childrens courses...'How to Read a Dictionary', 'Learning How to Learn" etc, eventually progressing to slightly more advanced (but still low grade) courses. Although I resented giving up my weekends to do these, I knew my parents wanted me to work at them, so I did my best to please them. We went to the Athena School (then based in Tempe) and all of our friends were in some way related to the CofS. I don't think I ever knew anyone outside of the 'Church'.

When my older sister turned 15 she began to be constantly targeted as a prime candidate for the S.O., a path to which my parents objected, my father particularly so. My mother was at that time still on staff at SydF, and so was continually pressured to allow her eldest daughter to sign up. My sister continued to be 'worked on' until she wanted nothing more than to join, notions of saving the world going through her head.

During this time, they also began to work on me. I remember quite distinctly attending an 'event' at the relatively new AO headquarters in Broadway and being greeted by two old school friends of mine, who had become fulltime members (at 13-14 years old!) of the S.O. They led me and another, younger, friend into a room with some adults whose names I never knew, and began espousing the wonders of the S.O. They then gave me, a 13 year old child, a lifetime contract to sign, telling me it was a postulate for the future and that our parents would be proud of us. My friend signed readily enough, however even at 13 I was clued in enough to know that I shouldn't really be signing contracts, and managed to get away with the 'I'll need to talk to my parents' line.

My older sister however did not fare so well; her desire to join grew, as did the pressure on my mother to allow her. Eventually my mother signed the dotted line. I have since been told by a childhood friend that my mother was tricked into signing, having been informed that my father had acquiesced - I can't say if this is true or not. Without really knowing what was going on at the time, I found that my older sister was gone, S.O. members having come to our house and collected her whilst my parents were out. I saw her about twice that year.

My father found out and fought the whole thing; I can only assume that he was declared an SP (probably worse) and cut off. Following severe arguments, my parents separated, causing me and my younger sister to begin suffering anxiety and panic attacks. Though separated they continued to fight to get their daughter back. Again, the specifics have never been recounted to me. We received calls to the house, abusive people turned up at the door arguing with my father. At one stage I was taken into the S.O. and told I needed to write down 'all the bad things I had done' - I didn't. On another occasion, one of the girls that had been in the same year as me at Athena arrived at my home with an adult male who I had never seen before. I told her they weren't allowed in (my Dad wasn't home and he had told us to never let anyone from the Org in, even if we knew them, and to not be afraind to hang up if they called), however they both barged in and began trying to forcibly take me into the S.O. At one point my old school friend was even trying to forcibly dress me and put socks on my feet with her own hands. Eventually my younger sister called my Dad - they spoke to him briefly on the phone and then left. From that point on I was cut off from my sister, I only saw my mother sporadically throughout the week, and I was completely cut off from any of the kids and people I had known my whole life.

Eventually my older sister returned home after about a year of continuing drama. My parents reconciled, however I still to this day do not really know what happened, as my family do not speak of it, and I and my younger sister were too young then to understand what was going on. We all moved on with our lives and are now a disgustingly well-adjusted and happy family, albeit with a healthy dose of loathing for any and all forms of organised religion.
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Patron Meritorious

Very good username!

:welcome: to ESMB

I knew the SO used harsh and deceptive methods to recruit, but you were nearly kidnapped into the SO! :wtf:

Glad you joined the board.


Formerly Fooled - Finally Free
Welcome, ThinkingForMyself

Welcome, ThinkingForMyself :)

So good to see that a family survived scientology intact! Rare indeed!!!!

Perhaps one day you can sit down with your parents and siblings and talk it all out. The silence is usually based on fears and oppression instilled by scientology itself. It is a great relief to get through it together so the past is not holding back the joy of the present. I know this, from personal experience.

Consider this new post from our very own Emma:
Former Scientologists urged to speak out

I wish you and your family well. I look forward to your updates.

~ Mary McConnell
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Welcome Thinking for Myself!

Glad to see you here.

Quite a story. So happy the SO didn't get their hands on you. That was a narrow escape. You should give your dad an extra hug for being a very wise man.:yes:

Miss Pert

Silver Meritorious Patron
A very big welcome Think For Myself!!!!

There's a lot of us Sydneyites here and all are welcome. The more the merrier! :party:

Wisened One

:welcome: to ESMB, ThinkingForMyself

Thank you for sharing your story..looking forward to reading more:)

I joined scn in 1989 Left in 2004.

I also had my kids do some of those same courses, the child's comm course, the dictionary and learning courses.

They tried to sign up my then-12-yr old daughter. She never went (as we intended). They lie so much (the recruiters) don't they? :grouch:

Anyway: Glad you got out and have joined us! :)


Once bitten

Patron Meritorious
Welcome, and thanks for taking the time to write your story. Wow. It's sick what they will do. Hopefully all this terrible activity which they excuse by calling it a religion will be exposed with the work that Carmel and friends have done.

Stay strong. I'm so glad you are out.

Tim Skog

Silver Meritorious Patron
Wow. An amazing story. Welcome to ESMB. Glad you're here and not in the SO. You did well to stay out of it.


Genuine Meatball
This is my first post
We all moved on with our lives and are now a disgustingly well-adjusted and happy family, albeit with a healthy dose of loathing for any and all forms of organised religion.
That was a very nice story! :) And with such a disgustingly satisfying happy ending! :D

Hmm.. Can't you persuade your parents to read here on this board? - Maybe get 'em to tell that story in full? - We'd just love it!

From the sound of it, your parents are on the same page as most of us here. I certainly have a loathing for organized religion, and The Sinister Scam Cult of Scientology in particular!

And please think about this suggestion:
<snip> Consider this new post from our very own Emma:
Former Scientologists urged to speak out

Fact is that this kind of 'seduction' of kids into the SO, and intimidating, threathening and 'hoodwinking' the parents is far from unusual. It is happening all over the world in Scientology.. So your family's story is important. We need to stop it!

Here's a thread on the practice:
Thread / Children Stolen by the Sea Org