I think the "questioning" that people do is a healthy thing though. Sometimes people need to question very thoroughly to find out exactly what was going on, because they were prevented from thinking their own thoughts "inside". That may involve disbelief in what someone else says they experienced. The questioner may have been forced to do things against there own wishes and may not understand that another EX was in different circumstances. And people sometimes find that their own perceptions about their own experiences changes too. Leaving them with the conclusion that they were unable to see the truth of their own experience on some issue.
None of this is to argue with anything in the OP. I'm saying that people may question things because they are now wanting to question question and question some more because thats what they did not do in the cult.
Hey DB, I get what you're saying, and I agree that questioning is a 'healthy' and vital thing to do. There is no argument there at all.
What I dislike and disagree with big time, is when people tell another or indicate to another that they are at a certain stage, and as time goes by they will see things differently AND in a particular light. You can get people to 'look' without telling them what to think, and it's a far better tactic, if ya wanna help, IMO (especially with 'ANZO cases' ).
The concept that everyone was "brainwashed" while in, is a false one IMO (although I agree that many were). Yes, I believe we were all affected to some degree, but those affects are very diverse, and the assumption that particular ones are common to all, is just BS IMO.