Enthetan
Master of Disaster
Cool. Glad you are getting on with life.For the most part I have - I've multiple properties, new degrees, several hustles, a primary+secondary romantic partners (who know each other + are friends), etc. ... life is good!
However as someone who moved from SO to Social Scientist I can tell you that's not how trauma/triggers work.
Triggers are simultaneously specific + morphous - For example you're humming along, great day and then someone says something racist/homophobic similar to something in scientology policy or what someone said to you in scientology. Real life example you're visiting friends/family in {country X} and you hear someone call an Asian person a "Wog." Now all of a sudden you feel ill, angry ... did you hear that right? is that fucker a scilon following you? no they're some older woman being racist, then you feel angry because well you're part-Asian and wog is a horrible term to call someone. You tell her that wog is racist and the only people still regularly using it are members of the cult of scientology, she gives you the two-finger-salut and you move to another cabin. As the Millennials like to say - "It be like that sometimes" or us GenX'ers "shit happens." You feel shitty until 2 hours later you find a really good + cheap all you can eat Greek place by the wharf, but then you feel a different kind of shitty but that just needs a short loo trip and you're good again
TBH, even your telling me to "just move on with your life" though well intentioned is a microagression, a very small one but one nonetheless. It belittles my pain because your pain or your perception if what was horrible about scientology is different than mine. Yes we were all fucked over by it but in different ways, and different shitty things felt more or less shitty to the people experiencing them based on their own previous experiences (good+bad) elsewhere. My pain being different doesn't in any way lessen your or other's pain at scientology or any other cults hands, or other types of racism or other types of sexism.
However we each have a right to look intersectionally + specifically how it {scientology alone or not} fucked us over. How different sub-groups got fucked over - it's part of how many of us heal. In the end people have to process this shit in their own way, at their own pace and sometime you have to re-process shit. Sometimes you find out years later something you thought you were good on triggers if {X} is in the environment, one is in essence constantly re-training and working one's peace of mind.
In essence this is also why scilon "auditing" does the opposite of what it claims (it creates/stimulates more triggers from real pain + false memories) and frankly I think that's what Hubbard actually wanted as the end product. Depressed people faking psycho-happy so he could work us to death for his fun+profit. But this isn't the thread for that. Frankly with the snark level here I don't think this is even the Forum for it.
https://patientsrising.org/what-is-spoonie/
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Microaggression - and I'm GenX but age isn't why it's going back to school to study various sciences where I heard it, and the concept was actually posited in 1973 by an MIT Ph.D as "micro-inequities" though it didn't reach colloquial penetration until Millennials made it popular in a Tumblr.
Also yes, I leave this Forum for months at a time - it's low priority since other forums/threads have less snark, more kindness and a willingness to look at others points of views/perspectives on scientology/cults. For example Leah+Mike's show, exscnkids, etc. Even the discussions on Twitter/IG seem to be a better outlet for me understanding others bad scn/cult experiences and/or other traumatic experiences as well as their good experiences post-cult. Plus work+otherwork+side hustle+two partners, occasional illness flareups, etc. Coming on here every few months 2-6 seems to be enough to answer PMs and skim the important things.
RE: micro aggression and the entire idea that someone considering himself in one or more intersectional categories means others are under obligation to avoid triggering their psychic minefields: I don't subscribe to that.