Hey there - I'm in need of advice about something that's going on...
The back story: so my parents are (since last week) at Flag; my mom is routing back on to OT5, my dad back onto OT 7 after a long break. A week before they left she and I had lunch. She's the only one in my family that I'm semi-out to as an ex-scientologist. I'm usually careful what I say around my family but lately it has been getting harder to keep my real feelings in.
Anyway, we ended up having a conversation (our second or third) about - very vaguely - my "disagreements" with the church. I usually try to stick to concrete examples, because she's still one of those "I know the tech works I've seen it and experienced it" types so I want to stay in shallow water. However, she did express her disgust at the way some ex-sea org relatives of ours were offloaded and said that she'd gone up-lines about it when it happened (here I should mention that my parents are both 40 year-plus scientologists, in good standing, pillars of the community, la da da). We both agreed how fucked it is that whenever someone we know goes into the sea org we basically never see them again. I mentioned that I've been reading books from reputable writers who are critical of scientology, namely Lawrence Wright, and that the fact checking in that book is beyond reproach so I have no reason to disbelieve it. I specifically mentioned the fact that the outpoints in the sea org don't happen in a vacuum and lead me to believe that the upper management is doing a horrible job. We ended on good terms though not, of course, seeing eye to eye.
Okay to the point: yesterday I got a phone call from her at Flag in which, apropos of nothing, she mentioned how much she "enjoyed" our conversation. I said I thought it was super awkward but that I was glad that I could be honest with her. Then she oh-so casually asked the names of the books I've been reading. Hackles went up on my end. I said, "Did someone there ask you to ask me that? Because that's really weird," and she said "No! I'm asking because I'd like to read them." Er. WTF. I had no idea what to do so I just gave her Urban's, Wright's and Jenna Miscavige's titles and she rang off. But COME ON. I mean, there's no way that she's at Flag and just happens to feel like picking up a little light anti-scientology reading, right? After we hung up I realized, duh, there's probably a sec check before routing back on to an OT level and it came up there.
So my question is... what the hell happens now? I'm correct that's she was lying when she said no one there asked her the names of the books, right? And if so, what can I expect the outcome of this to be? Will it just be fair roads fair weather from my parents from now on (which I really loathe)? Has anyone been in a similar situation as this? I should say also I almost welcome the shit hitting the fan at this point because I'm so sick of the lies and denial. And I'm not scared of disconnection either because my parents are REALLY family-oriented, and, well, I have something the church can't give them - I'm having their first grandkid in a month (is it so fucked that I think this way?)
Argh. Anyway. Sorry for the super-long post...I feel like this is the only place I can express my real feelings. Thanks for reading and for any advice you can offer.
I'd like to have a crack at giving you some advice here.
First, what's happening now to your parents.
Your Dad is on a routing form to get back onto solo nots. One of the first things done, which has already happened, was a meter check in the MAA s office. Yu may not have come up at all. "how's everything with your family?" "fine", he says, if no read, they move on. He also by now has received a metered D of P interview, very casual in appearance, but reads are noted. They wrote down a tech estimate of everything it will take auditing wise to get him back on the level and sent this to the registrar who then met with your father and reviewed his account and without question asked him to buy more hours. Unless his clear cycle was ROCK SOLID, then he could get confronted with the reality that he's not Clear and needs more hours for that too. It happened to me to the tune of $100,000.00.
Meanwhile, to keep him busy between these interviews, he retreading the OT 6 check sheet, which is a rehash of the Solo course, believe it or not. So as I type these words @ 4:45pm, EST, your Dad is in a theory courseroom or the metering courseroom so they can get student points off him. He's probably also getting called into session one to three time a day and his on a C/S Series 53 or a Green form which will get his needle to float nicely, eventually, but also results in them finding out a lot of very personal and private thoughts that a person should be allowed to keep to themselves, but not in Scientology. The auditors write KRs on "out points" and the C/Ss do too - all of this before they ever get to the eligibility issue. Bottom line - your Dad is possibly out $100,000.00 more than he expected already.
Your Mom has traveled a similar path, possibly without the courseroom work, but if she bought a bunch of hours in advance, they might have tried the 'ol "let's get you started on OT 6, while you're finishing up your OT 5" gambit, in which case, she's in the courseroom(s) too.
In any case, it's totally possible that you came up on her meter check in HCO or in the D of P interview and she's been with the MAA and that's what created the call to you. So she probably didn't waste a lot of $ on sec checks to spill the beans about you.
The dead agent handling isn't about you, it's about them. The MAA asked your Mom (about what books you suggested she read). She called you to find out, reported back and they did the simple dead agent handling on her about what criminals Lawrence Wright and the other authors are and if your Mom was satisfied with that, then situation handled.
However, that's a far cry from your pops receiving his clearance to get back into the Part B and C courseroom, much less receiving the clearance to go home packing the confidential repair lists and whatnot.
It's possible that if everything goes smooth, that a few months from now pops comes home as a Solo auditor. But, he'll be on a short leash with you and I promise that your key to the family manse will no longer work!
Sorry.