Am so sorry about your mum. The part about your child who parents adopted with the mind set that it was a postulated family existence did strike a chord with me, and think it goes a long way in explaining your mum's actions and reactions. In other words, in her world, we are all just spirits, and this spirit obviously was destined to be in your family somehow. I don't support this view, but at the same time understand it. Obviously it conveniently side steps you and your decisions, own family etc. But I've seen this, 'logic' before in other scientology families.
I love that your mum was able to articulate an apology of sorts before she went. It must have been heartfelt, and although you don't particularly highlight it in your other thread, she must have had a special place in her heart for you as the oldest.
My sincerest condolences to you Sue.
Thank you for sharing your family's story - it certainly takes a lot of courage to share such intimate part of our life in a such emotional moment.
You mother apology and how you talk about her tells that ,despite sad outcome of cult in your family relationships, love still remains in both of your heart. I wish somewhere, in any dimension, you are all reunited in light & joy.
Hoping you are loved by dear ones
please accept a warm hug I would give to you!
Rest in peace Sue's mom and wish Sue's dad a serene journey!
May all your heart heal!
Thanks ... yes that's exactly what happened. I was so very young, and in shock and it seemed the sensible thing to do. I did write more about it on my blog under Family Truths in the link below. Some years ago a counsellor said to me gently "you lost your baby" and I was able to start to deal with the grief and emotions that had been shut away.
Both Mum and Dad told me that they were proud that I stood up and spoke out. What more could I ask? They knew I was independent and doing ok and that's what any parent wants. Recently Dad too has expressed regret at what happened to the family ... that is his journey to reconcile and he also did his best. I try not to judge, and sometimes succeed. I too have made many mistakes as a parent and all you can do is become aware of that and change what you do. How much is karma, destiny or choice are perhaps questions I will never have a complete answer to, though I keep searching, and in the meantime it's best to be just doing what you are doing and going with love over all the other stuff.
It would be worth the wait - you have such a gift FTS.
What a journey you have had, and what a family.
I am very sorry for your loss.
You possess a wonderful sensitivity and connection to people, how you achieved that given the circumstances I have no idea, but it makes you truly beautiful and special.
Thank you for such an open heart sharing of your mother's story and your own. I'm so touched by your love and compassion, I don't really have words to express it. Having lost my own mother in the past year I offer my condolences to you and yours for your loss. Wishing you love and healing and peace.