Sunny • 13 hours ago
Stephanie, you cannot, and will not be able to turn back time.
Let me tell you a story.
When I left Scn, my brother and I had not talked. I did not know where he stood regarding Scn. And because I was declared, I assumed he would be disconnected. At first I did not try to contact him, because I did not want to cause him and his family any trouble. I did not want to put him in a position where he would have to chose sides.
Later that first year I was out, I received a phone call from another relative, telling me that my nephew only had days to live (he had been battling a rare cancer for over 4 years of his short... too short life). The emptiness I felt that day, that week, that month, that year. I felt so helpless. It was not the time to barge in on my brother. I wanted so badly to be there with them through that. But the Scn disconnection was already in place. And I was not there for the final days of my nephews life.
Six months after that, we had a family reunion. I asked my never-in family not to mention that I would be there. They kept their word on that.
I showed up, and my brother was there, with his family.
I had no idea what would happen.
I was one of the lucky ones.
My brothers wife, without a word, walked over to me and handed me their newborn daughter to hold.
I was shocked. No words. Complete trust, that I was not expecting.
We spent the next two days catching up on everything. Now we are very close.
Stephanie, how about showing up at your dads house? No words needed.
