Just as a side note to the married couple discussion aspect;
Nearly all scientologists learn early on what is safe, acceptable sharing and what is not. Sharing ideas about dissent is neither safe nor acceptable amongst scientologists. I rue the numerous times I "successfully handled" my wife's upsets with the CofS over the many years of our entanglement. If I'd been less successful at it, we probably would have been out years earlier.
In any event, the day we finally decided to have a full, no-holds-barred conversation about our true feelings about it all is the day we left scientology forever. It was one of the best conversations we've ever had!
^^^^^My bold above.
You've already been generous with spending the time to post but may please I impose just a bit more and ask, generally speaking, when on the CO$ path it is that an individual first learns about not sharing with all others and one's spouse/partner?
Is it, say, the first time the 'ksw' blurb is read individually and then discussed with whomever else is in the course room and more fully explained among/between the informal group, to keep things absolutely confidential?
Or is it read individually, understood to mean exactly what some written passage or another says plainly, and an individual immediately knows - uh-oh, better not even tell the Mrs. - and immediately becomes a new, learned behavior?
And, whether it comes at the first course, or during book one, or at an early auditing session, I've not yet understood how an individual feels/thinks at that moment. Something/someone tells me to keep something strictly confidential, even from a loved one, it would prompt me to consider the idea, weigh it with what the tasks asks on one side, and what the derived benefit/outcome might yield on the other. I've made very quick decisions, just like everyone else, about important things in my life, again, just like everyone else.
I'm simply curious to know if the decision to agree to the confidentiality requirement described in the OP was made, if it's measured by time alone, either with a moment's consideration, an hour's consideration, or a full day's consideration.
*Not sure if you and your wife were featured with Feral on the video with the Xmas presents in the stylish, red bags, but if so, thank you to all involved - very memorable! I think two of the three were rescued/blew after that day but believe that same protest deserves much of the credit.