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The purpose of ESMB

Discussion in 'ESMB Rules, FAQ, and New Member Info' started by Emma, Feb 6, 2008.

  1. Voltaire's Child

    Voltaire's Child Fool on the Hill

    An example might be complaining about or mocking someone who defends him or herself- like, say, if someone were to double team with another contributor and were to claim to want to take bets on how many replies the person might post about something rude that was said and what those might say.
  2. alex

    alex Gold Meritorious Patron

    There have been times when ESMB was not a safe place for me.

    Because of attacks on me.

    Because I was falling into behavior I would need to restrain myself from.

    Line plot items???

    (and in fact Pixie, I left the board for a while once partly due to my irrational impulses to get into a games condition with you. Totally unbeknowst to you and totally unrelated to anything you did or said to me)

  3. KnightVision

    KnightVision Gold Meritorious Patron

  4. Axiom142

    Axiom142 Gold Meritorious Patron


    Firstly, well done on getting so many Scientologists to visit and look for themselves. I’m sure that they will find much of interest and value here. I agree with you and Panda, it would be great if this forum were completely safe and welcoming and totally ‘on-message’. Unfortunately large groups of humans don’t always act the way we want them to. However, this shouldn’t stop us from pointing out bad behaviour and making offenders stop it. Being alert to those who try to disrupt sensible and rational discussion is a good idea as well.

    ESMB should be first and foremost a place where Scientologists (ex or otherwise) can come and feel safe, share their experiences and make new friends. I am confident that ESMB will continue to be that place.

    When I first started looking to the Internet to provide answers on why Scientology wasn’t working as advertised, it quickly became apparent that the Internet was a very unruly place. Some people seem to become incredibly brave and very offensive when sitting safely behind their keyboards in anonymity. I think this is inevitable when a forum is made public and open to all. But, this never really distracted me from the facts.

    Yes, there is often a lot of ‘noise’ going on here on ESMB. And I’m probably one of the worst offenders for making jokes and having a laugh. This shouldn’t detract from the message if people are prepared to really look. There is a huge amount of important information, particularly the personal stories, that is easily accessible. If someone is really interested in finding the truth, I’d expect them to persevere and ignore the distractions. If any of your friends want to have a sensible conversation regarding Scientology, please feel free to direct them to me.

  5. Pixie

    Pixie Crusader

    That's interesting Alex as I was always and only ever aware that we got on quite well considering your viewpoints and my temporary fits of phychosis at that time, however I do understand what you are saying, but Alex, as I have said to you before, you cannot realistically come on to an exes board and not be challenged now and then do you understand this? So, tell me, what were these 'irrational impluses' Alex, I am very curious about this and feel I am learning much here which is what I try to do with all posts I read.
  6. Pixie

    Pixie Crusader

    Are you becoming a killjoy Axiom? :confused2: I take from your post here that we ought to only talk about scientology and not have at least 'some' fun. I'm getting more confused by the minute as to where this thread is going so I am bowing out now. Why can people not just live and let live instead of being so judgmental. Having fun and being witty seems to be a crime now but it's ok to insult someone. I have not seen anyone be insulted lately and I cannot see a problem and I won't make one that isn't there.
  7. Good twin

    Good twin Floater

    Haven't told you lately that I love you.....
    Just a little off topic diversion........:whistling:
  8. Pixie

    Pixie Crusader

    Er... no GT you have not. :no: And what brought this sudden burst of affection to the fore pray tell? ... :confused2: Enlighten me please...
  9. Good twin

    Good twin Floater

    Nothin' especially. Just was reading your participation on this thread. As always just amazed at your continued evolution. Which of course validates my own evolution and from that springs forth a burst of affection. :love2:
  10. Pixie

    Pixie Crusader

    Good god GT, well that's just blown me away... :bigcry:
  11. Axiom142

    Axiom142 Gold Meritorious Patron


    I'm not saying that at all. Having fun is good, but not at the expense of someone else. And let's not forget that this forum has a very important part to play in the recovery of people who have been hurt and may still be suffering.

    I'm going to start by reminding myself.

  12. Good twin

    Good twin Floater

    Baby Girl, for better or for worse, we're on this ride together. Yesterday another ex said something to me about how being ex is such a unique experience that only other exes could understand. It's true. We are bonded by this and your healing is important to me and as much a part of my recovery as anything I do or discover myself. If you must cry, please cry healing tears.:yes:
  13. Pixie

    Pixie Crusader

    No one is disagreeing with that.. I hope... but I've not seen any of this lately! We're not in a haven or a cult anymore and we have to allow people to be themselves and all they have to do is follow the rules and if someone doesn't like it they report it insead of creating this huge 'drama' out of nothing! Who is having fun on this board 'at the expense' of someone else? I want to know this. Who are we talking about specifically when you say this? Or is this another attempt at control as a throw back from cultic behaviours.
  14. alex

    alex Gold Meritorious Patron

    Oh I certainly expect to be challenged, and understand that it comes as a result of my own actions, it is just that there are times that I can not deal with it. Sometimes I crash. Sometimes I just cant handle it. And ESMB for me is the place where I deal with some of my personal issues. At its best it is my safe place to be. Ironic.

    When you came on the board, it was apparent you had some issues and were a very active communicator. I have a tendency to engage by challenging, and I felt that I would not be able to keep myself in the bounderies of what I felt would not be upsetting and difficult for you. I have a history of acting in ways that are not in the interests of others, and dont need to burden my karma any further than I already have.

    So I acted in my own interests by withdrawing. There were other things going on too, unrelated, that also motivated me. For a time I tried to abandon the "alex" persona. But eventually came to the conclusion that it still made sense to remain anonymous.

  15. Good twin

    Good twin Floater

    Someday Alex, someday.:thumbsup:
  16. Carmel

    Carmel Crusader

  17. Pixie

    Pixie Crusader

    Well thank you for that explanation, I appreciate it very much. :thumbsup:

    It's nice to know you didn't want to upset me... perhaps that was just as well... :whistling:
  18. Pixie

    Pixie Crusader

  19. Carmel

    Carmel Crusader

    :roflmao: :D

    Me thinks this bloke's got it pretty good, and I wouldn't mind bein' in his shoes from time to time - that is, if he's wearin' any! :unsure:
  20. Carmel

    Carmel Crusader