You don't have to be intimidating: you just have to say NO and MEAN IT. What if they were asking you if they could assfuck you, and "wouldn't give in"? Would you relent because you got tired of saying no? Believe me, a life in the Sea Org these days -- ESPECIALLY at RTC -- is worse than being assfucked.
If you want to do the intimidation thing, surely you have some male friends or relations who could scare the shit out of them?
The biggest problem as I see it is you wanting to remain in good standing with them. Is that true? If you want to play nice you will end up in the EPF and it will go on being hell for you until you get out of there, months or years later. Then you will be in bad standing AND have tens of thousands in a freeloader debt to pay off: again that's only bad if you want to try and play nice with them. If you don't care what they think you can simply tell them to fuck off, like many people here on ESMB.
Paul
With all due respect to Paul, I think you have to do a bit more than just say “No!” and
mean it.
If you say “No” then that simply tells the recruiter / registrar / Ethics Officer / whatever, that your Reactive Mind is ‘trying to stop you going free’ or some such crap. It just means that they have to get more forceful in their persuasion. And they will. If they have a ‘hot prospect’
they will not leave you alone.
You will have to get mean and nasty.
Fucking mean and nasty. Tell them you are getting advice from the biggest posse of SPs on the planet (us). Mention Mike Rinder, Marty Rathbun, Tony Ortega. Tell them you have been reading about how David Miscavige (call him by his name) likes to beat people up who look at him funny. Tell them about the abuses, the forced abortions, the cruel and unusual punishments. Tell them that L Ron Hubbard was an adulterer, a drug addict, a convicted fraudster (twice!), a bigamist, a liar and a conman. Especially tell them that Hubbard died from the effects of a stroke and spent his last days living in a motorhome, having daily injections of a ‘psych drug’ in his bum. BTW, this isn't made up, it all happened.
You would have to be pretty stupid to get involved with Scientology, without at least doing some serious background-checking. And, if after that, you still wanted to continue with it and even possibly join the Sea Org – well I’m sorry but that isn’t very bright. Yes, I know some people “Just have to find out for themselves / make their own mistakes / etc” and all that crap, but this is serious. People get their lives ruined by Scientology.
I joined the Sea Org about 3 months after I got into Scientology. Big mistake. Back then (’86) we didn’t have on-line forums like ESMB or in fact any readily-accessible source of up-to-date info on Scientology. I had no idea what I was really getting into. It took me 22 years to find out and finally extricate myself. Don’t make the same mistake.
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