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SO members so stupid? they can just leave!/QUOTE]
For the same reason so many battered housewives are so stupid.
SO members so stupid? they can just leave!/QUOTE]
For the same reason so many battered housewives are so stupid.
Good stuff BoldGirl. Thanks for posting.![]()
Lifton was smart!!!
To me the eight points are exactly right and verbalise what I have been trying to extract from poor mushy head for a while, not that I would ever have codified it with such clariy.
Is there something about the human condition which makes it probable that any, or even all, groups will evolve those control measures, even if those controls are not there in the first place. Scn is very prone, but so too are religions - in christianity's worst incarnation, the inquisitions (but even now the pope prevents the use of condoms in AIDS-ridden countries because god might see it as birth control - I can't begin to describe how disgusting I think that is, in fact I would have thought it was disgusting while I was in Scio - interesting how I could see insane control in other groups but not in my own) but there are obviously others which are equally bad, then there are masonic lodges, trekies, footie teams etc etc...., any group really which polaries people into us and them. Then, the more essential the group is percieved to be, the more intensely the controls are applied.
One of the things which enchanted me about scn initially was the - oh I don't know yoda-ness(?) of the old timers - wise, serene, ability to grant huge amounts of beingness to a wog such as me - it was a total freedom to walk into the org. But they were brief halcyon days and they haven't lasted and maybe they could never last because humans just can't accept people who aren't part of their own way of thinking. There is a need to demonise others while making sure the faithfull don't get out of line. So you get the secret language, the guilt trips, the ends justifiying the means, the dangerous outsiders etc.
This is a muddle, - I have never been much good at explaining myself. Does anyone have any thoughts?
I can feel a big thought coming on:
My agreement with scn was that the tech was the way out. I had disagreements with pretty much everything else but I put up with all of that because of my initial very strong agreement and I guess, desire for the agreement to be true. When I discovered, to my infinite relief, that the tech was not the way out, then the rest dissolved into thin air. There was nothing to stay for so mentally I was right out. Getting out physicaly is more difficult. Maybe this is very simplistic. A person can usually see the bad stuff but if underlying it all, there is some agreement that is still intact and has not been shattered by the bad stuff, then that person is going to stay, come what may.
I admit that I could not have just left.
I could not just walk out on my wife, friends and my commitment.
Also I didnt want to feel stupid and admit I was wrong and had been conned.
I had to be kicked out and so I worked towards that!
Of course no one wants to 'miss out' on the bridge to total freedom..
Of course no one wants to come out and say they were had for a million bucks.
The embarrasement in what you beleive keeps it to yourself.
Of course noone wants to be harrased and litigated. Not to mention libel/slander against you. etc etc
Had finished my 5 year contract (local org, not sea org). I think I had done a 2+half year contract before that. Anyhow they refused to see that although lron says you have to replace yrself when you leave post it cannot apply legally to the end of your contract because the contract which subjects you to that specific policy is no longer applicable!
I could see that Mr Dir. Com -or whatever, was a brick wall. I had a think and then I had a big, fat, juicy Cog-fucking-nition!!!:dancer: :dancer: :dancer:![]()
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THEY had to want me to leave.
But...how to achieve it. Well I took the advice from all the popular new age
books that I hadn't even read yet. I just "was able to have" my coggy woggy
and wait until the answer appeared about how to get it done. Anyhow I continued doing my duites but no extras and made no effort to look enthusiastic or uptone or happy about it.
After about 3 or 4 weeks a mission arrived from the cont. sea org base and on their first day their boss man came up to me and said: "You don't want to be here do you?" All purposeful and no nonsense-like. I said: "No" he said: "Alright, get out then" Oooooh he was sooooo sexy I wanted to stay another 5 years!! But I left; with no declare, or freeloaders bill or nuff'n.
If you have looked at TROM, I think it was a very tromish kind of win. (Maybe even level 5 WOW!!!)

I had to be kicked out and so I worked towards that!