This little story, I don't think I've put on ESMB
So let's see if this has a place in your repertoire . . . . .
When I first met my sweet Virginia (it was actually on about the second or third chat we had), I asked her a question: "If you had all of the money, time and resources you needed to do what ever you wanted in life, what would it be that you'd do, or be, or have?"
I find it to be a key question, as I find it pointless to be trying to play a game with or have any "serious" relationship with anyone who is going in a totally different direction to me, or with someone operating on totally different values
Virginia actually knew her answer. Many folks don't. Her answer was that she wanted help and/or heal people.
Boy, that got my attention!
I then told her that I had a book she should read, and I gave her Alan's intro book "Secrets of Success, Happiness, etc.," and told her to pay particular attention to the part that deals with the recovery of spiritual life-force particles.
She read the book, and wanted to know about the processing that was used to "recover the spiritual life-force."
Now I knew I had met someone who was going in the same direction as me. Someone who was worth spending time with. And as one of our doctors said: "And she's
pretty Rog!" To which I could only reply: "That helps!"
What I then did was gave her some basic processing and hatting up and teamed her with another friend/business colleague to co-process with. Big wins all-round on this
V and I continued to spend time together on a professional level while I watched her develop in her now-found endeavor but, eventually, with us both being bachelors, and male and female

that other aspect of relationships was beginning to raise itself as a potential, so had to be addressed.
So I said to V, "You know, you and I need to decide what sort of game and relationship we should be involved in or have together. We need to know what the basis of our being together is going to be."
I'll not relate the charm of what then followed here, but simply say we expanded our game based on a fully known understanding of what and why we play the game we now play.
I don't get into games that are not fully comprehended. A lot of folks do, I have observed . . . and then wonder why the game later falls apart or why they end up in disharmony.
V and I do not operate based on any "now I'm supposed to's." There's no missing knowledge on what we're doing together and why. And it has been a wonderfully fun 15 years . . . and as I'm wont to say: "It helps that she's pretty!"
Rog