afaceinthecrowd
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On Sunday nights, because we're Mormon (joke), we have family barbeque.
Tonight, because of the ESMB thread "another newbie," where a young woman (they're all young when you're me) with a daughter around 10 has become disaffected with the Co$, but her ex hubby is panter (my wife's term for the Pavlovian characteristics of the true believers), I observed with fresh eyes what goes on at our dinner table.
Tonight we had a small group: my wife, myself, Randy (our son), Tami - his wife (our daughter emotionally, if not biologically), and their kids, Nic (12) and Nat (10) and our son, Quincy (of the four legged variety).
My wife runs a property management company and is the founder and head of the board of directors of a K -12 private school that is 40 years old. I'm a schmo. Son randy is a high school grad making big bucks for being an alpha geek at ebay. Tami is a soccer mom, volunteer at school, not stupid. None of the adults or are dog are shrinking violets. You couldn't overwhelm any of us with a Mack truck.
The two kids 7th grade - Nic and 5th grade - Nat fit right in AS EQUALS.
Nic tells us of his day. He went shooting all day, out the door at 7 AM, back around 4. The range he went to with his friend, is 200 yards. Most ranges near here are only 100. He had a good day doing something he likes. Let's face it, he wouldn't like it, if he wasn't good at it. In our family, all the kids shoot. That's how I grew up. That's how our kids grew up. The point really is, Nic isn't a kid at the table. He is an equal contributor. he's also a good listener, joke teller, and good impressionist. In the winter he skis double black diamonds (expert runs) and is on the ski team. He has mastery in certain areas.
Nat (also Natasha or Tasha) is on dance teams with girls who are two or three years older. She is two years ahead of her age peers in ballet. We are talking Royal Academy exams (not a slouch group). She runs like a gazelle. she is beautiful, poised, confident, and quick witted. She does gymnastics competitively too. she is not overwhelmed or downsized in stature because of her age. She gets full respect from everyone. She is a master dancer and gymnast (for her age).
Both kids have travelled with and without their parents.
They text us about things. Not dorky texts, but cogent. They like us. I took Nic on his first cornice (skiing) when he was 6. Natasha, when she was 4, was skiing all day with her aunt and me in a heavy storm . The kids have backbones.
They both have a good sense of style.
They have too much going on to be joining anything like the Sea Org.
When raising kids, fostering mastery in areas is a very good thing.
I am going to post this on "another newbie" too.
Yes Carmelo, Yes!!
I like to cook and some folks seem to think I’m pretty darn good at it.

I cook everything from Mexican to Italian to Cajun cuisine.
I like to cook for friends and on Sundays I always cook country home-style “comfort food”.
Yesterday was old fashioned meat loaf, garlic mashed potatoes with mushroom gravy, green bean casserole, sweet corn on the cob and a tossed garden salad with my signature vinaigrette.
Every Sunday while I’m cooking and sharing a meal and conversation with friends a feeling of thankfulness and contentment washes over me.
I’m so thankful for the friends I have, the comfortable home I live in, the nice kitchen to cook in with excellent utensils, the bounty of foods available to prepare and consume and the car I drive a short distance to purchase those foods for a nominal amount of money.
We are so Fortunate to Have the Blessings of Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Our Own Happiness available to Us for Our Participation and Enjoyment.

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In that as in other things you merely demonstrate your own simple-mindedness.