I believe that the subject of disconnection in SCN is widely misunderstood by critics of SCN.
First I need to state that wrongful disconnection cases may have happened, but that is not because of
SCN policy but only because of some few bad bullies inside scn organizations.
Fortunately they are very rare cases.
Second, the great majority of people who leave the SeaOrg or even SCN itself don’t have any
problems to be in contact with their friends or family’s members still inside the religion.
I left the SO some years ago and no one has disconnected from me, indeed, I’m still in comm.
with everyone I knew while in the SeaOrg.
Also I know many ex-scientologists friends who don’t wish to have nothing to do with SCN
anymore, again they still hung out with many of their SCNs friends.
That is the case with the vast majority of Scientologists-ex scientologists-ex SO members-etc...
Now let me clarify the small percentage (around 2-4 %) where the above didn’t happen to be the case.
As some of you may already know, disconnection happen only when an SP declare has been issued.
Now, it’s a standard LRH policy that before that happen, a great time it’s spent on HANDLING
the person who is eligible to be declared. His family’s scn members and friends are the ones who
will invest the majority of time in trying to avoid the disconnection. THEY LOVE HIM TOO.
All their long time invested efforts could be summarized by these few lines as:
“Dear, if you wish to leave the SO or SCN, you are free to do so, we will respect your decision
even if we don’t agree with it. We will still love you and still be in contact and visit you anytime.
…But please, you need to stop your suppressive actions against our religion and against our wishes,
Please. respect us as scientologists like we respect your decision to not be one anymore.”
Sadly for few “people-would-be-declared” all their friends efforts to avoid a disconnection
is taken as an invitation to do instead so (“the church is imposing you to disconnect from me!”)
Just watch this video to see an example of that:
It's on the section about disconnection.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9ckl9Gh1p8