What do you expect her to do, forget every word, phrase or concept that she came across in the time she was in?
Not going to happen, not for any of us. Even for the ones who wish it would.
No, not forget...but re-examine and re-evaluate
her acceptance of them and the concepts they stand for as being real and being true, based on a new knowledge or new realization that the "Source" of these concepts lied about them, and nearly everything else about himself and his life, did not ever do any real research, had no real training or education or experience about our minds, or healing and helping people with their human problems, cared not a whit about religion or spirituality, and at the core of his factually demonstrable extremely dysfunctional personality was a money-grubbing, lying, cheating, backstabbing, abusive sociopath.
We're just (hopefully gently) encouraging a little more cognitive dissonance over the whole still trusting and "believing that the tech works" viewpoint of life, the universe and everything. In other words, thinking like a Scientologist is trained to think, and not getting beyond that.
It is a gradient from COS organization bad, but Scientology good...to DM bad but Ron good...to Ron, Dm and COS organization bad, but Scientology processing and auditing good (the tech works and helps people) to...
...the total freedom to fully examine and question the efficacy of ALL OF IT, every part of it, even right down to the essential meaning of terms and concepts, based on a reality based linguistic map or viewpoint, and not from an INDOCTRINATED Scientology Cult think (which entails thought-stopping and overlooking or suppressing boatloads of cognitive dissonance) map or viewpoint.
It's kind of your classic peeling the Scientology Onion, or Arnie's levels of rising awareness of stages or levels of being an Ex.
We're all trying to help DillPickle, (and the lurkers who may or will be reading this) who is also trying to help us.

It's all good. It's also very hard work and painful to re-examine and re-assess or evaluate for yourself long held and long cherished concepts, terms and beliefs which one wishes to be able to rely on and trust in as "stable data", or have certainty about. Especially so for those who were raised in the cult, and have no other frame of reference.
Having helpful examples and encouragement at hand, done in a respectful and caring manner, does help to speed the process. We have ample real world evidence of that right here on the board, and elsewhere.
This is not my first rodeo, Demented LRH, or yours.

I don't expect her, or you or any other Ex to forget any of it, in fact I think it is harmful to get out of COS and just try and "forget" that you were ever in, and to suppress and deny that whatever happened to you and your friends and family, happened. But I do want all Exes to be able to fully heal and move forward in positive ways in life. That's why I refer to the process as a healing journey and recovering from one's cult experience.
To further use a map analogy, one of the first rest stops along the way where you can get out of the stage coach and take a good look around at the scenery in this new territory is when you fully recognize, realize and accept that you were in a Cult. To be able to do that, you have to be able to question the ways you were indoctrinated to think and view "reality", based on the Cult's teachings and standards, and the basic concepts and assumptions that you hold on to about what is real and true.
(Facey, pardner, I'm getting into Southwestern lingo as an homage to YOU!

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It's about healing and redeeming the past, which is often a long and arduous process, but infinitely easier with friends and well-wishers at hand to help light the path out of the mental trap of "being" a Scientologist.
The path is clearer and easier to discern for some, but more obscure and rocky for others. But the way out of always thinking like a Scientologist, even after you leave the Cult, IS right at hand. Sometimes folks just don't see it yet, or are unwilling to let go of their old considerations, and trust to it yet. But the path is there.
Questioning what one thinks and assumes to be true about the way the world is and our minds work IS the Path!
