Nicole
Silver Meritorious Patron
Now that some time has passed since this disconnection I find it really hard to settle down and find a way to just deal with it.
We are still in contact (if you can call it that) via e-mail but the most I get out of my daughter is maybe a 4 word e-mail, at times all I get is an “OK” response, there is NO MORE GENUINE interaction.
Scientology has done a good job at destroying that.
Now make no mistake she is in a VERY Scientology family so even though the line has not been totally cut (due only to legal reasons for them being minors) when she turns 18 I believe disconnection will be enforced to the maximum, I am sure of this as I know the family well and of course I live thousands of miles away which does not help either.
The biggest problem for me is I see this from the viewpoint of “Scientology disconnection tech working” which pisses me off to think it has this effect on me.
When perhaps I should look at it from what I need to do to maintain my relationship with my daughter; which plays into what pisses me off; do you see where I am heading with this.
To stay in touch with my daughter to any degree I really have to tow the line when it comes to Scio. Not block her from doing it. Never say anything negative about it to her and basically give her my full support or I will loose her.
That is the vindictive Scio policy working.
Or I could lay it on the line with her and do what I can to hinder her bridge progress she is only 12. That way I for sure will loose any and all contact.
Bearing in mind I feel I will loose that contact anyway when she is 18.
As her father do I not have the obligation to protect her from potentially harmful groups.
Is it noble of me to possible destroy my relationship with her by hindering her bridge progress to protect her or should I just let her walk through it on her own and see what happens.:confused2:
Tip toeing around this makes me very uneasy.
Until she is 18 I could greatly hinder her progress, not all of it but a lot.
Sure she turns 18 and just goes flat out in Scio anyway and I will be out of the picture.
Lets assume disconnection policy or threat of it did not exist, at all. No danger of loosing a father daughter bond.
What would you do in this instance?
I would say you would show her the truth to Scientology and get her to look and get her out.
I say the only reason I am not doing this is because of Scientology policy and that is NOT GOOD.
My life is not run by Scio policy.
Am I looking at this all wrong?
I feel upset again, during I read about it. It is a pity that you can't go the way over courts. I am thinking allways it would be the best way to get her out. She is 12 years old. Didn't exist there a chance that you get the custody? Don't mind this question. The problem that I see is, what is if your daughter is older and she things why didn't my father do everything to put me out of the cult? Why he didn't go the way over the courts? If you will loose, your daughter will know you make anything.
You have contact with her. She answers with little Mails. She reads what you write. She knows that you are there for her. But the other influence is much bigger.
If I understood you right, if you write her you let the Scientology part outside. That is the way you stay in contact. I try to feel me inside your daughter. She directly things Scientology is the best of the world, she is brainwashed. Her father is an "evil" SP. But she loves him, she didn't want to disappoint him too. But he is far way. On the other side is the BIG Scientology influence and the influence of the mother and the familiy. The father will loose. I am sorry but you have no chance. The contact will break. I am sure.
I would take the chance in the rest of the contact that exist, to write her that you love her, that you are allways there and if she needs help you are immediatly there. But I would also write your opinion about Scientology (Explained for a 12 year old child) She has a right to know your opinion and the true. If she gets older maybe it helps her. IMO the contact will break no matter what you write.
As her father do I not have the obligation to protect her from potentially harmful groups.
It is your obligation and you have to do it.