In my quest for spiritual enlightenment, at that time, 1970-76, I didn't let policy come between true oneness with another human being.((This may be tl;dr for some...but for those who like to read about how things were back in the day, this is a couple stories worth reading))
We went to another great hamburger place..on Alvarado, not Tommy's near by.
As we ate, he told jokes, we laughed and I think I fell in love that night. After...I thought we *had* to go back. I asked, "Now what?" He: "We're going home...it's out tech to do that". (Study without enough sleep). We went back to the Manor, and in his room, he started to kiss me. At the time there was "no sex with students" in one of the PL's. So I said, "no--we can't". He: "There MUST be a loophole here somewhere".
The next day I asked the course admin if there had been any changes to *that*?
He smiled and said sweetly: "Yesssssssssssssssssss". And handed me the correction. So I went over to my "Twin", and said: "Good news!" He deep into study, looked up and asked, "What?" I said: "There IS a loophole". He: "huh?"
Super embarrassed---I thought "Oh Gawd, what if he doesn't care?"
Sometimes, and I do regret this, I allowed shallow thinking to dominate, where I could have experienced mind awakening oneness with fellow bc students (Doris and Rachel come to mind).
the way I remember it: culture trumped policy
I mean that sincerely.
What everyone else was doing was far more important than green on white.
and the hill overlooking both the City of LA and Dodger Stadium, a part of Elysian Park, at the top of Douglas St. off Sunset near Alvarado was a very good spot to watch the submarine races.