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Pixie

Crusader
No, that's cool.

My issues aren't really sex-related.

I'm just all fucked up today (tizzy) because I woke up to finding out an ex-fiancee has gotten serious with another guy. I have no "claim" on her, of course, but I reacted really badly, very angrily, and then got really introverted and depressed about why I'm not coming up roses with some nice woman. Tough week. My son went off to college, and won't return my emails, and I was really hoping once he left his mother's home, he'd get in touch (I did write to him, he hasn't written back).

So, basically, I was already feeling pretty worthless, then this shite came up today, and now I have a rainy weekend to sit at home and stew about how unfit I am for relationships of any kind.

So, perhaps I should just shut the fuck up for a while and do some reading.

No, don't shut the fuck up Gommorhan, you sound like a pretty normal human being to me. Good days and shit days, just like the rest of us, and when it's a shit day, we think it's the end of the world sometimes and when one things pisses one off it's inevitable almost that a few more things will kick in at the same time too.

Don't be so hard on yourself here ok. I 'stew' too, I'm sure a lot of people do and it's horrible, but what can anyone do but their best to just move through it, nothing it seems lasts forever. I think feeling 'unfit for relationships of any kind' is a throw back from the cult in my view anyway. I feel the same about relationships of any kind. If you look at the All or Nothing thread, I mean even basic stuff can get fucked up, so it's hard! :bigcry: Ugh... yes... let's try to lighten up.... :duh: Sorry, I was trying to cheer you up... looks like I'm having a shit day too.
 

Power Change

Patron Meritorious
No, that's cool.

My issues aren't really sex-related.

I'm just all fucked up today (tizzy) because I woke up to finding out an ex-fiancee has gotten serious with another guy. I have no "claim" on her, of course, but I reacted really badly, very angrily, and then got really introverted and depressed about why I'm not coming up roses with some nice woman. Tough week. My son went off to college, and won't return my emails, and I was really hoping once he left his mother's home, he'd get in touch (I did write to him, he hasn't written back).

So, basically, I was already feeling pretty worthless, then this shite came up today, and now I have a rainy weekend to sit at home and stew about how unfit I am for relationships of any kind.

So, perhaps I should just shut the fuck up for a while and do some reading.

Sorry to hear about all of this Gomorrhan. Rejected or ignored communication...for me, was the worst in terms of producing the worst reactions in myself. Man it is rough, and all that you have gone through with your family/SO...wish there was more I could say. C of S being dismantled, eye on the target....many families need this to happen.
 

Smitty

Silver Meritorious Patron
The scientology construct "overts" are only destructive from your current point of view. When you originally did or did not do something, it was the right thing to do or not do.
Running overts can be slightly helpful, but does not handle the stuck identities that give rise to the current conflict.

Smitty
 

thetanic

Gold Meritorious Patron
I'm just all fucked up today (tizzy) because I woke up to finding out an ex-fiancee has gotten serious with another guy. I have no "claim" on her, of course, but I reacted really badly, very angrily, and then got really introverted and depressed about why I'm not coming up roses with some nice woman.

Been there, done that, so I know that kind of feeling. It's like "why doesn't anyone want ME?" When I saw that scene in When Harry Met Sally, that question so indicated to me. I sobbed like a baby.
 
Yeah, well, wouldn't that involve watching couples sit together? I'd rather slit my throat.


As a 54 year old, classically educated, musical theater fanatic, bipolar, straight male "geek", I can REALLY understand this viewpoint. Still, saturday & sunday afternoons are popular times for girlfriends to meet up for coffee, movies, etc.. Always the prospect for striking up a conversation with a couple of women out and absent male companionship. Women of a "certain age" are often quite interested in meeting a man who will actually TALK WITH THEM. And, it's a safe bet for a dose of caffeine, always a good thing! :thumbsup:


Mark A. Baker
 

I told you I was trouble

Suspended animation
You can do the lyrics while you wait, but, only the actual song includes the drunken howl at the end that's essential to the therapy :)

I lit a thin green candle
To make you jealous of me,
But the room just filled up with mosquitoes
They heard that my body was free
Then I took the dust of a long sleepless night
And I put it in your little shoe,
Then I confess that I tortured the dress
That you wore for the world to look through.

I showed my heart to the doctor
He said I'd just have to quit
Then he wrote himself a prescription
And your name was mentioned in it,
Then he locked himself in a library shelf
With the details of our honeymoon
and I hear from the nurse that he's gotten much worse
and his practice is all in a ruin.

I heard of a saint who had loved you
So I studied all night in his school
He taught that the duty of lovers
Is to tarnish the golden rule,
And just when I was sure that his teachings were pure
He drowned himself in the pool,
His body is gone, but back here on the lawn
His spirit continues to drool.

An Eskimo showed me a movie
He'd recently taken of you
The poor man could hardly stop shivering,
His lips and his fingers were blue
I suppose that he froze when the wind took your clothes
And I guess he just never got warm
But you stand there so nice in your blizzard of ice
O please let me come into the storm.

Zinj


That must have cheered him up no end !!!!

:bigcry:

Perhaps it just needs the occasional drunken howl ... :ohmy: .... at the end of each sentence ....

:eyeroll:
 

sunshine4all

New Member
you poor things
go out and have a life
and do everything I wouldn't do

just when you think you can't sink any lower
you hit rock bottom
you bounce
and you are being flung into the abyss
you sink to the bottom of the ocean
to depths no one has ever gone before
only to discover that there has been a colony of extraterrestrial life on that very spot you are to land
and there is no limits to what they hope to encover on human kind
by anal probing:omg:

now, coffee on a rainy sunday afternoon staring at snuggling couples doesn't seem so bad now, does it

Oh, how I wish Tommy were here :bigcry:
and we'd share that icecream (still waiting litlle bear victor)
 

Voltaire's Child

Fool on the Hill
Oh GOd, how many times did you hear that when you were being harassed? Or the phrase I heard the most "what have you been up to"? Or just "that's an overt"! The org where I worked was obsessed with what everyone else was doing and not doing, including other's sex lives. There was an unhealthy amount of attention on "overts".

What was the phrase that you heard the most?:nervous:

Scn has some very cool concepts but the organization uses them against people and this only can hurt rather than help.
 

KnightVision

Gold Meritorious Patron
Where are you on the Bridge?????:omg:


Which really means.... how much have you spent on Scn lately???:omg: :omg:


There's only one way to complete 'The Bridge' and obtain full posession of one's powers... Jump Off!!!!! :happydance: ASAP:yes:
 

thetanic

Gold Meritorious Patron
Thanks Thetanic! It was a hard learned lesson. But WTF, I can laugh now...:dieslaughing:

Okay, this is really funny, but I always saw the Bridge as being like clear glass over a deep ravine, and I'm scared of heights, so I always saw it as something a bit scary.

Maybe it's just me.
 

KnightVision

Gold Meritorious Patron
Okay, this is really funny, but I always saw the Bridge as being like clear glass over a deep ravine, and I'm scared of heights, so I always saw it as something a bit scary.

Maybe it's just me.


That's an interesting vision... first time I heard that one!

I had hoped it was gonna be something exotic and visually entertaining... but no, quite boring and rote- way too mechanical and controlled. A few times the questions were astounding, along with hallucinations of broad magnitude, but not much better than some of my youthful drug trips...:D
 
By $cn standards, every post we make or read is yet another overt. We must be really really bad SPs.


Overts only matter from the perspective of an individual's personal standards of ethics. You only get in "trouble" spiritually when you violate your own integrity.

Doesn't matter what "they" think, nor does it matter who "they" is.


Mark A. Baker
 
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