A few notes on this relationships thing
. . .
All relationships are based on reciprocation between the parties to a relationship. It is a two-way flow. (Of course, Hubbard had to bastardize this and misapply his notion of "exchange" to it instead.)
However, the big question becomes: Flow of what?
Well, that question is answered by looking at the truths of what is "needed and wanted."
Alan Walter wrote a whole technology on the subject of "Abuse." The big discovery in the area is that "abuse" is the giving (enforcing on) a person what they
don't want, and/or the denying them what they do want.
In society, this is so routinely done, folks just don't recognize it for what it is. Hats comments on this as an aspect of the jobs she did . . . the routine deal was that the males (customers) in the area saw her as something other than she truly was and thus ran on her what she didn't want.
But it occurs as a routine thing in most nearly all human relationships . . . look at almost any "2D": do the partners involved in it really know or appreciate why it is they are involved with each other, what they each truly want and expect? And by this I mean,
truly, deep down want and expect?
Some get involved simply because the "chemistry" seems to be there . . . err, umm, that's a body thing. That doesn't go very far
Once the newness or the energy of it is discharged, then bloody what? Do you want to be stuck with a mere
body for a relationship? What do you think the "seven year itch" is all about? It's being bored with the body thing!
An ideal relationship is one wherein the parties to it are knowingly facilitating, empowering and co-creating to and with each other on their known and agreed needs and wants.
And just as an indication on how important
wants are, one must realize that
wants precede one's intentions and doingness . . . wants are the reason and driving force behind our dreams, aspirations, and action!
Violate a person's wants, and you'll really create and enemy for yourself!
The other thing about relationships is that everyone has a right to their sovereignty. The abusive behavior of "domination" is the trampling on and knocking out of an individual's sovereignty.
Hats, you have a right to your sovereignty. It should be honored, and you are right to protect it. It's a shame that the men you have met seem to have mostly tended to violate it or at least failed to honor it and empower it.
What a wonderful relationship it would be if you had found a fella who could recognize your true Being and Presence; and honor, facilitate and co-empower it with you.
You see, most folks, not knowing this is the way the game should be played, fail to honor and properly appreciate each others' presence and Being; and their wants, dreams and aspirations. The result, of course, is collision of wills and unwitting or even knowing abuse!
So Hats, honor and maintain your presence and integrity as a Being. Don't alloy it to be "acceptable" . . . . that would be suicidal. But at the same time, to have a winning relationship, this tech above can be applied and then the partners to the relationship will then be able to truly enjoy each others' company.
And, Face, that word I wrote was "manager" not "administrator."
Women, like men, can both be good administrators, but women are generally better managers; the reason being, as I said, is that they seek to understand and work with. The management I'm referring to is in the context of corporate America and the handling of organizations and people: not paper.
Lakey, one of the things about getting up into the spiritual realms of existence (I'm avoiding the term "OT") is that attention begins to often come off of the body. One is more spiritual, and one's awareness is more directed towards things that are not "body centric" or "bodily oriented."
One can still focus on the body, but, personally, I find I often need to knowingly and actively direct or play my attention across or through the body to get the "juices of the chemistry" you speak of going. Other than that, I have far more important things to do with my attention and energies. Though every so often V and I find the body/ies have accumulated some energy that is a pleasure to discharge.
Oh, yes . . . and V and I are not married. She's one of these modern, young, independent, strong-willed American women who wishes to strongly maintain her independence (and sovereignty) . . . and so I facilitate that
I'd be bloody dull not to! After all, you've got to keep the ladies happy, no?
Rog
I don't know what they are so afraid of...CI (counter intention) is VERY massy to them, I guess! 
You two are great uptone Exes for him to pal around with and show the highlights of beautiful downtown Riverside, and take a gander at the compound out at Gilman Hot Springs. You got the royal tour!!! 
Hello Dear Friends. I have just returned to LA after a Global 
Here are some pictures from our Star Wars Parties and a preview of the 3rd Star Wars Trilogy
Wow... This is cool... Entertaining people into a way to vanish conflict from their lives... I look forward to all my friends being at the premier of the 3rd Star Wars Trilogy. 
