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VaD

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Suggestion? You shouldn't.

Admiration is NOT the most valuable particle in the universe (even though it may have been to Hubbard adn even though Hubbard defined it to be).

Desiring attention from or acceptance from other people and things is a fundamental personal weakness. It is probably most likely a manifestation of "ego" (a temporary and unnecessary mental contrivance).

That is my opinion, and while I don't go out of my way to "hurt the feelings" of others, I in no way desire that others "like me". I do very little out of some motivation "to be liked". I just try to be honest. Some people need acceptance like other people need air, water and food. It is a misplaced need. Let it go.

Now, what was the topic?

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No, I just DO care.

Whether others like me or not. As long as I'm here, I can understand other's feelings towards me and correct myself (no, not "become reprogrammed" but rather have their perspective and, perhaps, higher plane to look from, along with that).

This board helps me grow.

- Hope, it makes sense.
 

VaD

Gold Meritorious Patron
some motivation "to be liked". I just try to be honest. Some people need acceptance like other people need air, water and food.

If you read Abraham Maslow's works you might find that "air, food and water" are deficiency motivations.

- I have no deficiency motivations on this board.

Yet I DO have growth motivations. - Need "to be liked" and "admiration towards me" have not been the biggest or most significant one of them.

Being honest is a growth motivation. It's towards own self-actualization. Just like you, Gadfly, I'm trying to be honest.
 

Julie Mayo

Patron
Wasted Lives

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Interesting indeed. Thanks.

Certainly Co$ wants people to think that out of Scn we are degraded beings with no purpose of improvement. The "SP" declares control communication lines for those still in but also act as a wrong indication on the declaree and the feeling of betrayal may well pin down the morale of an ex. I've read John McMaster didn't end his wife well, he had alcohol problems. Mike Rinder statements that you stopped doing any Scn in the late '80 and David 'wasted' his time surfing was hinting in that direction.

So, it makes me very happy to learn that you indeed kept improving yourselves (eg. went back to school) and kept helping others improve too.

You make a very important point here. I've become increasingly convinced that a person's health and well being are strongly connected with the person's sense of her/his worth to others and society. If the person has been both privately and publicly ridiculed and made to feel worthless, then that person can easily become depressed and become more susceptible to illness.

On the point about wasting our lives. This is something I think about almost daily. A few ways I think a person can waste their life are: to not enjoy it, to disconnect from friends and family, and to cease making positive contributions to society. The contributions don't have to be grandiose.

I think this forum is making a grand contribution to society and the people responsible for it (THANK YOU EMMA), and the posters are all doing their bit.
 

VaD

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You make a very important point here. I've become increasingly convinced that a person's health and well being are strongly connected with the person's sense of her/his worth to others and society. If the person has been both privately and publicly ridiculed and made to feel worthless, then that person can easily become depressed and become more susceptible to illness.

On the point about wasting our lives. This is something I think about almost daily. A few ways I think a person can waste their life are: to not enjoy it, to disconnect from friends and family, and to cease making positive contributions to society. The contributions don't have to be grandiose.

I think this forum is making a grand contribution to society and the people responsible for it (THANK YOU EMMA), and the posters are all doing their bit.

Julie,

I think you made a few quite valuable contributions right here, in your post above.

Hearing it from a "long-time Scientologist" (who doesn't consider herself a scientologist in any way, shape or form) is very important to me.
 

Vinaire

Sponsor
I will answer with sincerity.

We have discussed this all much in the past on this board. I will answer within a certain context that relates to this realm of ideas.

The "finite entity", the "thetan", the individualized aspect of the Ground-of-all-Being is most likely NOT eternal. You and I have agreed in the past that Hubbard may have erred in this notion - that the "thetan" is some non-destructible entity.

As I see it, and you may too, the "thetan", the "soul" or the "individual spirit" is another aspect of the grand illusion. It is subject to a cycle of action, like any other aspect of manifested creation. It comes and goes, even if at a much slower rate than many other things. It is born, develops, changes, and eventually decays and dies.

In that regard, YES, it is NOT eternal, and while possibly/probably related in some way to what IS fundamental, it itself is only a "tentacle" of God.

I entirely agree that a "spiritual being" IS a created thing. As I understand it, if one systematically removes all attachments and considerations, one eventually ends up "splattered all over the universe", with NO IDENTITY, with NO LOCATION, and as "God".

But also, this temporary "spiritual being" has MANY of the creative qualities of THAT from which it emanates. And IT, no matter how temporal in the big picture, CREATES "knowledge".

God ----> individualized spirit ----> knowledge

The "being" is still "senior" to knowledge.

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Gadfly, Thank you for your well reasoned and sincere response. I appreciate it very much. As far as the 'seniority' aspect goes, I only meant it with repect to focus of attention. I find that focus on 'being' creates a lot more problem then focus on 'knowledge', such as, focus on the topic or subject.

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Freeminds

Bitter defrocked apostate
If you read Abraham Maslow's works you might find that "air, food and water" are deficiency motivations.

- I have no deficiency motivations on this board.

Yet I DO have growth motivations. - Need "to be liked" and "admiration towards me" have not been the biggest or most significant one of them.

Being honest is a growth motivation. It's towards own self-actualization. Just like you, Gadfly, I'm trying to be honest.

I find this very interesting. Like any scientific means of describing real life, Maslow's Hierarchy could be over-simplistic in some circumstances.

Does posting here address your self-actualization needs? Well: maybe, because it shows you're free from the cult. Maslow put morality, creativity and acceptance of facts at the top of his hierarchy, too. Things that would elude a clam.

I'd have said that in general, most of the 'reward' for posting in a forum is in the esteem needs, which is to say one layer down in Maslow's hierarchy. And yet... can we still garner esteem (admiration from people) when those people have no idea who you really are?

On some boards (although not here) you could post completely anonymously. Can one still have 'esteem' where the poster does not carry forward reputation from one post to the next? Can one have 'belonging' in a web-based community that anybody can join, at least briefly?

Well... it seems so. Something different is happening in cyberspace, and somebody is going to need to re-work or at least re-visit Maslow's hierarchy, to explain what happens in the wired world.

But whatever happens there, it seems that Scientology gets exposed and destroyed by its own lies: so it's all good!
 

Gadfly

Crusader
Gadfly, Thank you for your well reasoned and sincere response. I appreciate it very much. As far as the 'seniority' aspect goes, I only meant it with repect to focus of attention. I find that focus on 'being' creates a lot more problem then focus on 'knowledge', such as, focus on the topic or subject.

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Mmm? OK, I can see that. But, focus of attention, especially when adding all sorts of "meaning" and "significance" to the mix has negative implications no matter how it might be done and "what" it may be directed at. In truth, as a mental construct, the actual "thing" it may be directed at is quite meaningless. The best "mental construct" or "model" is one that best defines and most closely delineates some legitimate observation of some external or internal event or situation.

I think the context makes all the difference. We probably agree far more than either of us realize.

As I said earlier, yeah sure, the "data" is FAR more relevant and important than the "personality" forwarding or creating the data.

For example, while I HAVE checked into much of the information about Hubbard's past - his lies, his strange behaviors, his possible motivations - in the end I ONLY care about the subject data itself, and the PRODUCTS of Hubbard's IDEAS. I don't place much attention or concern on "the man". I haven't spent hours digging out stories or reports from others about what a jerk he was (or wasn't) in the "old days". From reading what he wrote, and noticing WHAT he created, well, simply, he is a dick. I don't CARE what others might report about him, not one way or the other. Granted, I have taken the liberty of associating (closley) the creator with what he created. I am free to make that judgment. "In their fruit ye shall know them." So, after looking at the fruit, a great deal of it is rotten, and I KNOW HIM! I do pay FAR less attention to people's claims, assertions, promises, statements and "feelings", than I do to HOW ONE BEHAVES WITH OTHERS IN THE REAL WORLD. I pay far LESS attention to claims of IDEALS than I do to REAL EFFECTS on REAL people in the REAL world. If more Scientologists did the SAME, instead of focusing on the PR of the CLAIMS, I suppose far fewer would be "Scientologists".

It is enough for me that, based on my own extensive observations, SOME of his "data" is useful, and that a great deal of it is either useless, incorrectly evaluated in terms of imortances or plain wrong. And that the application of the LRH data, no matter who applies it, and as long as it is applied "exactly as written", creates completely INSANE organizations and often nutty, strange fanatical people.

As far as information goes, I have much more concern with the validity of the "data" than I do with any concern or attention on the person who created the "data". Though I do think that it can be a mistake to destroy all associations between the creator and the created - as there is often SOME or even large correlation between the two. Does the apple ever really fall far from the tree? I think not.

In a different context, in matters of "spiritual growth", a correct delineation of importance is necessary for a body of knoweldge that addresses the relationship of the "being" with any "knowledge". In this realm, the qualities and attributes of a "spiritual being" take far more relevance and importance than the various data and bodies of knowledge created or entertained by such a spiritual being.

Though, fixation on anything seems to be fundemantally detrimental to mental, emotional and spiritual growth and health. These things, spiritual growth and health, seem to depend on the relationship between the creator and the created, between the observer and the observed. Where THAT which does the creating and the observing holds a bit of a higher importance and a more basic relevance in all-that-is. It is not that there is an exagerrated focus with that idea, but only that the statement best describes "the way it is".

There is that which does the mocking up (Being), and then there is the infinite realm of all the tremendous variety and sheer quantity of mockups (Knowledge). People often get stuck looking at some aspect of the universes of mockups (as the data or knowledge, or even "fact" of the universe), when the thing that matters the most, the thing largely hidden from view, and the thing that needs to be brought to view, uncovered and "rehabilitated" most, is THAT which brings all else into existance (Being).

I think there can be accurate statements of the way "it all works", on the most fundamental level, and such statements would/should include and encompass the functioning of that which creates the details of ALL data and knowledge (as created things).

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Vinaire

Sponsor
Mmm? OK, I can see that. But, focus of attention, especially when adding all sorts of "meaning" and "significance" to the mix has negative implications no matter how it might be done and "what" it may be directed at. In truth, as a mental construct, the actual "thing" it may be directed at is quite meaningless. The best "mental construct" or "model" is one that best defines and most closely delineates some legitimate observation of some external or internal event or situation.

I think the context makes all the difference. We probably agree far more than either of us realize.

As I said earlier, yeah sure, the "data" is FAR more relevant and important than the "personality" forwarding or creating the data.

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This is going to be a quick post as in a few minutes I shall be tutoring a student on maths.

Let me further clarify what I meant. It is like having one's attention fixed on, or more preoccupied by "beings" than by "consistency of data or information."

Here we may have somthing that may underlie the very idea of ego. In ego, the attention is fixed more on "self", which is a special case of what I am talking about.

More later...

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David Mayo

Patron with Honors
Misconceptions --and vias

What is a body thetan in your view? May I ask?

To me it is a symbol for something that is not clearly explained by Hubbard.

It could be a via through which one is continuing to look at one's case.

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Consider the first two sentences struck from the record and view this as my response to your third sentence with which I agree:

Yes. People sometimes find it easier not to look directly at what is (there) but instead use a via to look at or through. Unfortunately, the more one does this, the more of these "vias" there will appear to be. If you were paying for such a service you could part with a lot of $ and feel that that there is even more to handle than you started with. Does this ring a bell for anyone?

Before I take any questions, I would like to move this discussion over to a new thread which I will call Misconceptions.
 

David Mayo

Patron with Honors
WhetherI really am who I say I am

It doesn't matter to you that you are really you? :)

Well, I said it didn't matter to me but I guess deep down it really does. Sometimes I can't stand him ... Oh is that a mirror I'm looking at?

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