can you flesh out the entitlements a little
For instance:
We are helping the youngest son and daughter in law (with 3 yr old twin boys) find and then purchase a house.
The son had a penthouse condo, which "had" to be sold because it didn't match her view of herself. Then that money got wasted (my opinion) on a big wedding and bringing all her relatives to that wedding. Then they bought a condo in the city that she grew up in. It had so many structural problems and termites, that they sold it and managed to lose all the rest of their money.
Now we (wife and I) want to see them get a dump of a house in a nice neighborhood with good schools, fix it up, and live in it for a good long time. The daughter in law would rather live in "her" city next to a busy busy thoroughfare backed up to a barrio apartment building.
We're not going to win this battle, but we're not going to fund it either.
What do you ask regarding "entitlements"?
CarmelO,
"Entitlements" are based on belief.
Beliefs stems from one's own thoughts on any subject or the adopting/accepting of another's or others' thoughts on things.
Such thoughts also lead to decisions . . . either way, the genesis of the ongoing condition of existence is a thought.
Alan devised a wonderful "Thoughts are Things R/D" with a little help cum prodding from RogerB
Two versions: a) one's own thoughts, b) other's thoughts.
Same R/D, just that, having recognized a thought you are operating on and affected by is from another, one simply processes it from the perspective that it was sourced by the other and then, at the end of the R/D the final steps are to "return the thought to sender/source."
An extended version of the R/D is in the case handling version of the CleanSlate . . . an original shorter, less complex version is in stand alone form.
This below is extracted from the extensive clean slate version.
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Tell me what your perceptions are about that (subject being addressed). Acknowledge their answer.
3. What precepts, beliefs or thoughts do you have about or from (thing being addressed from step 0)?
Get the person to look to the past, present or future for the answer and to tell you the precept, belief or thought. (By asking the person to look to the past. present or future, you are directing their attention to their projections, comprehension, visions. concepts, or minds.) Write down and acknowledge their answer.
4a. Connected to (named precept/belief/thought), where is it? Acknowledge their answer.
b. Connected to (named precept/belief/thought), what is its size? Acknowledge their answer.
c. Connected to (named precept/belief/thought), what is its form or shape? Acknowledge their answer.
d. Connected to (named precept/belief/thought), what is its color? Acknowledge their answer.
e. Connected to (named precept/belief/thought), what is its weight? Acknowledge their answer.
f. Connected to (named precept/belief/thought), what is its duration? Acknowledge their answer.
g. Connected to (named precept/belief/thought), what are its mood levels? Acknowledge their answer.
If there are low mood levels, run mood handling.
EXPERIENCE NEGATIVE MOOD HANDLING:
a. What part of (named mood) are you willing to experience?
b. What part of (named mood) would you rather not experience?
Repeat a and b over and over to Cause Indicators.
CREATE NEGATIVE MOOD HANDLING:
a. What part of (named mood) are you willing to create?
b. What part of (named mood) would you rather not create?
Repeat a and b over and over to Cause Indicators.
Find positive opposite mood and run: EXPERIENCE POSITIVE MOOD HANDLING:
a. What part of (named mood) are you willing to experience?
b. What part of (named mood) would you rather not experience? Repeat a and b over and over to Cause Indicators.
CREATE POSITIVE MOOD HANDLING:
a. What part of (named mood) are you willing to create?
b. What part of (named mood) would you rather not create? Repeat a and b over and over to Cause Indicators.
h. Connected to (named precept/belief/thought), what mood must not be experienced? Acknowledge their answer.
If there are must not be experienced mood levels, run mood handling.
i. Connected to (named precept/belief/thought), what mood must be experienced? Acknowledge their answer.
If there are must be experienced mood levels, run mood handling.
END PHENOMENA CHECK: After running all moods — check for interest or end phenomena.
EP: Connected to (named precept/belief/thought), how does it seem to you now? Acknowledge their answer.
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If client still has interest on (named precept/belief/thought), continue running:
j. Connected to (named precept/belief/thought), what are its limitations? Acknowledge their answer.
k. Does (named precept/belief/thought) create an image or vision? If”Yes”, say:
Tell me about it. Acknowledge their answer.
1. How does (named precept/belief/thought) manifest in your presence-time? Acknowledge their answer.
5a. How has or could (named precept/belief/thought) make you right about thing being addressed from step 0)? Acknowledge their answer.
b. What have been or could be the consequences of that? Acknowledge their answer.
c. How has or could (named precept/belief/thought) make another or others wrong about (thing being addressed from step 0)? Acknowledge their answer
d. What have been or could be the consequences of that? Acknowledge their answer.
e. What problem does or could (named precept/belief/thought) help you solve or escape from? Acknowledge their answer. Making sure you write down the exact problem.
f. 1. What part of (named problem) are you willing to confront and handle?
Acknowledge their answer.
f. 2. What part of (named problem) would you rather not confront and avoid handling? Acknowledge their answer.
Repeat f 1 and 2 over and over until the person has a rise in mood level, an increase in certainty, a realization (or Aha!), regained abilities, a big win, and huge quantities of recovered life-force particles.
Note: If the problem is too big, does not resolve, or is reoccurring, tell the person they will need to get this problem handled as soon as possible in professional processing.
g. Is there another problem that (named precept/belief/thought) does or could help you solve or escape from? Acknowledge their answer. If there is another problem, repeat steps f 1 and 2. Then repeat steps g and f 1 and 2 until all problems have been handled
6. Have there been or could there be any other consequences of having the precept (named precept/belief/thought)? Acknowledge their answer
Repeat question 6 until all past, present and future consequences have been viewed
7. Do you have or could you have any other precepts, beliefs or thoughts about or from (thing being addressed from step 0)?
Repeat questions 4 through 7 until all precepts have been viewed Then return to the beginning and repeat steps 0 to 7 until the person no longer has any unviewed projections, memories, precepts, belief thoughts, or consequences on the thing being addressed Then ask:
8. Connected to (thing being addressed from step 0), is there or do you foresee any unpleasant sensation?
If there is, get it named and run:
a, From where could a spiritual being experience (named unpleasant sensation)?
Repeat over and over until the person has a rise in mood level, an increase in certainty, a realization (or Aha!), regained abilities, a big win, and huge quantities of recovered life-force particles,
b. From where could a spiritual being create (named unpleasant sensation)?