I like to look at programs like 'Before they were Stars' and I have asked myself if I saw anything stellar in them before the studio groomed and then PRed and then sold the public on their character. Sometimes the star quality is obvious and sometimes not. Mostly it IS. I see some entertainers making LOTs of money and I think hmmmm they must be well connected with all the right fellows.
Yesterday I was viewing a clip of Sammy Davis at age 7. He was dancing. Totally amazing. The charisma was there and I'm sure that I would've been one of the first to notice.
Where I used to work they had talent scouts come out and interview people for all sorts of productions from HALLOWEEN horror films to commercials to JC Penneys catalogs. There was always a wait and a sign in and another wait. The waiting area was in the convention rooms or sub lobbys next to me. I did
not always have a heads up that auditions were going to be scheduled while moms brought their kids from hundreds of miles away. I can honestly say that it was pretty obvious looking at the children hanging out, which were a standout and who wasn't. Some people just exude a self confidence and a radiance and a sense of humor and mastery about life from the get go. I used to peek inside the rooms to watch the auditions. I'd say Yep, knew that one was special. They were comedians and acrobats, actors, model, singers etc.
I watched a six year old casting her fishing rod into the river with such dexterity last month that I had to approach her. Her family was poor from the islands and proud to know how to eat. The point is I NOTICED. I always like to notice.
On Sunday nights, because we're Mormon (joke), we have family barbeque.
Tonight, because of the ESMB thread "another newbie," where a young woman (they're all young when you're me) with a daughter around 10 has become disaffected with the Co$, but her ex hubby is a panter (my wife's term for the Pavlovian characteristics of the true believers), I observed with fresh eyes what goes on at our dinner table.
Tonight we had a small group: my wife, myself, Randy (our son), Tami - his wife (our daughter emotionally, if not biologically), and their kids, Nic (12) and Nat (10) and our son, Quincy (of the four legged variety).
My wife runs a property management company and is the founder and head of the board of directors of a K -12 private school that is 40 years old. I'm a schmo. Son Randy is a high school grad making big bucks for being an alpha geek at ebay. Tami is a soccer mom, volunteer at school, not stupid. None of the adults or our dog are shrinking violets. You couldn't overwhelm any of us with a Mack truck.
The two kids 7th grade - Nic and 5th grade - Nat fit right in AS EQUALS.
Nic tells us of his day. He went shooting all day, out the door at 7 AM, back around 4. The range he went to with his friend, is 200 yards. Most ranges near here are only 100. He had a good day doing something he likes. Let's face it, he wouldn't like it, if he wasn't good at it. In our family, all the kids shoot. That's how I grew up. That's how our kids grew up. The point really is, Nic isn't a kid at the table. He is an equal contributor. he's also a good listener, joke teller, and good impressionist. In the winter he skis double black diamonds (expert runs) and is on the ski team. He has mastery in certain areas.
Nat (also Natasha or Tasha) is on dance teams with girls who are two or three years older. She is two years ahead of her age peers in ballet. We are talking Royal Academy exams (not a slouch group). She runs like a gazelle. she is beautiful, poised, confident, and quick witted. She does gymnastics competitively too. she is not overwhelmed or downsized in stature because of her age. She gets full respect from everyone. She is a master dancer and gymnast (for her age).
Both kids have travelled with and without their parents.
They text us about things. Not dorky texts, but cogent. They like us. I took Nic off his first cornice (skiing) when he was 6. Natasha, when she was 4, was skiing all day with her aunt and me in a heavy storm . The kids have backbones.
They both have a good sense of style.
They have too much going on to be joining anything like the Sea Org.
When raising kids, fostering mastery in areas is a very good thing.
I am going to post this on "another newbie" too.