Hats, fly out to So Cal for our party and I'll fix you up!
Lakey ...you incurable romantic YOU
Hats, we were going to schedule a Halloween party for Oct 31 but two things threw water on that. Carmelo wrote he is coming out on Nov 8th with his family so we should wait and schedule for early November. Candy is only available Saturdays and Sundays so the party has to be on the weekend. Next, ex wife Evy, no decided she doesn't want to use our house. The reason, strangers will be walking through the house using the bathrooms. They could steal things or case the house out and come back later to rob us or people could mention the address and put in on the internet and maybe OSA would be at our door. This woman is a lawyer, after all and that is how they think.
COMMENTS ON DIVORCEThat huge reality break which we had is just typical of of why we broke up. Something unusual just started happening. I talked to her about my situation with Edey. She called me a jerk! She says that the reason I am not getting Edey is that when I first met her I should have started a crash diet and started bugging up my body at the gym. Also I should have begun eating vegetarian so as to purify my system. She said I was just lazy and chauvanistic, thinking I could get a thin and attractive woman like Edey just on the basis of personality and a good sense of humor, etc.
Evy then told me, "You have no competition." "Of all of our married friends, you are the best looking, the smartest, the most knowledgeable, the kindest. None of our friends wives have husbands in your league." I then ask the obvious, why are we breaking up. A tirade ensues. "You don't know how to dress, you are clumsy, you are a klutz, you are chauvanistic and don't follow my instructions." Just yesterday, you put your laundry into the wrong basket, you keep making the same stupid mistakes doing the little things in life. Then when I correct you, you argue with me and make my burn up a lot of my energy in correcting you and I get so riled up that I can't sleep! You have so much going for you and then you ruin it by doing stupid things! Then you won't take my correction without a huge argument, using up all my energy.
I said that what about me correcting you, you are very stubborn and burn up a lot of my energy and almost always refuse to be corrected. She answers, "I always turn out to be right, you are never right but you don't get it. I told you to do this, to do that and you fight me and don't do it, and then you brought the entire family down with bad business decisions and throwing away tons of our money on Scientology services and various hair brained schemes." I have to admit that she is usually right but I say to her, "Once and a while you are wrong." She admits to being wrong only one time and cites that it was under extremely different circumstances, she was nurisng our daughter and hadn't slept well and we had an argument and it turned out that I was right. She then justifies that she was tired from nursing our daughter while I simply watched a football game in an adjoining room and then slept soundly.
And so it goes. Just 2 weeks now since the divorce was final and she was getting a bit annoyed with something Roberto is doing and suddenly she started brigning up a lot of these petty errors and annoying things which I do. The theme is that I have a lot going for me but that I ruined it all by being a klutz and arguing with her and depleting her energy, which prevented her from sleeping soundly all these many years. So there it is 29 years of marriage ended by two intelligent kind hearted people who have grown apart in many ways, now having very different interests but who still have quite a bit of love for each other. There is a lesson here to be learned but I am not sure what that lesson is. Oh, Did I mention Evy is half Jewish!!
GETTING BACK TO THE PARTY Getting back to the party, there will be two very horney older gentleman, one a genius and an ex Scientology Icon and the other, no genius but far from stupid who is still distinguished looking, namely Johnny and me. Then Edey's group of people has several younger guys in their early 50's. One guy, Freddie is pretty macho and would probably be a good match for Hats. One of Edey's friends is Jim who is an extremely handsome guy. He looks mid to late 40's but told me he is 52.
Auditor's Toad will hopefully be there. He is over 70 now and has a beautiful wife who just turned 53 but still looks like she is in her 30's. What a doll she is, sweet and beautiful.
Yeah Hats, if you fly out, good old Lakey will wear his matchmaker hat for you. In Yiddish the matchmaker is prounounced the Shatkin but it is spelled funny, something like "Schadchen". Lakey has worn his hat well recently and has put together a very nice couple. Also, hopefully Carmelo will be there. You two can talk movies the whole evening!
We need to find a venue since my house is now off limits. Edey wanted to use the same restaurant down in Fountain Valley but that is so far for the Ex Scientology crowd up in L.A.. We want a restaurant with vegetarian food selections and dancing and it should be part way between L.A. and Orange County. Edey, Candy and I will find a place.
Lakey