Alanzo
Bardo Tulpa
I have found that the biggest obstacle to healing from the abuse of Scientology, and getting on with your life, is the bitterness that you feel from having been scammed and abused by the cult.
The most insidious part of this is the feeling that if you finally let yourself let go of your own bitterness, then Scientology will have "won".
I am writing this not from some lofty perch, looking down on all you bitter and militant exes, but as someone who was more bitter than any one of you here.
Last summer, I began to let go of my bitterness and began to run a big "HAVE" on Scientologists. I decided that they deserve any religion they choose, and that their right to it is as valuable as any of my own rights.
I decided that every person is following their own path, and trying to make their own lives better from their own viewpoint. And if that is true, then who the fuck am I to continually fault them for their choices?
Just as some Scientologists have to admit that Ritilan or Prozac has helped some people live better lives, then Exes have to admit that Scientology is truly good for some people.
And so then it becomes a question of "Who the fuck are you to tell people how to live their own lives?"
That's what bitterness, run rampant, will turn you into - the same type of militant, pinheaded fanatic that you see in the Church.
It's only after you lay down the bitterness that you can start to be who you always wanted to be.
And the way to lay down your bitterness is to have the courage necessary to "let Scientology win", too.
I say "too" because criticism of Scientology still remains absolutely vital, and should never be abandoned. So critics and their criticisms should still be allowed to "win".
But so should Scientologists.
The only way to live is to let others live.
This was taught to us in Scientology, when we first got involved, as "granting beingness". It was taken away soon after through "ethics" and PTS tech, upstat and downstats, etc etc. But it was a timeless truth held out to us as something shiney to attract our attention, and to keep us grabbing.
It was worth grabbing for then, and it still is now.
Have the courage to let Scientolgists win, too, and you will be a much happier, and much wiser, Ex-Scientologist.
And a big chunk of the freedom and healing as an Ex will be yours.
The most insidious part of this is the feeling that if you finally let yourself let go of your own bitterness, then Scientology will have "won".
I am writing this not from some lofty perch, looking down on all you bitter and militant exes, but as someone who was more bitter than any one of you here.
Last summer, I began to let go of my bitterness and began to run a big "HAVE" on Scientologists. I decided that they deserve any religion they choose, and that their right to it is as valuable as any of my own rights.
I decided that every person is following their own path, and trying to make their own lives better from their own viewpoint. And if that is true, then who the fuck am I to continually fault them for their choices?
Just as some Scientologists have to admit that Ritilan or Prozac has helped some people live better lives, then Exes have to admit that Scientology is truly good for some people.
And so then it becomes a question of "Who the fuck are you to tell people how to live their own lives?"
That's what bitterness, run rampant, will turn you into - the same type of militant, pinheaded fanatic that you see in the Church.
It's only after you lay down the bitterness that you can start to be who you always wanted to be.
And the way to lay down your bitterness is to have the courage necessary to "let Scientology win", too.
I say "too" because criticism of Scientology still remains absolutely vital, and should never be abandoned. So critics and their criticisms should still be allowed to "win".
But so should Scientologists.
The only way to live is to let others live.
This was taught to us in Scientology, when we first got involved, as "granting beingness". It was taken away soon after through "ethics" and PTS tech, upstat and downstats, etc etc. But it was a timeless truth held out to us as something shiney to attract our attention, and to keep us grabbing.
It was worth grabbing for then, and it still is now.
Have the courage to let Scientolgists win, too, and you will be a much happier, and much wiser, Ex-Scientologist.
And a big chunk of the freedom and healing as an Ex will be yours.