Thanks DeeAnna...
Very Cool Post...Appreciate mucho you sharing this.
They're 37 and 35 and are established, independent and
very self sufficient (they both own homes...without Daddy's help...and did almost all of the repairs, renovation and maintenance themselves). They've traveled abroad extensively and both did study abroad in College...the Artist at the Florence Institute for the Arts and the Special Ed Teacher at the University of Edinburgh.
I told them and reaffirmed often throughout their lives that all that mattered to me was that they live their life on their terms, pursued their interests and followed their Heart and that, as far as I was concerned, their role in life was not to produce grandchildren...their mother was none too happy about that last part at all and also thought I should counsel them to be "more practical" about their chosen studies, to wit, chose a major that would be "marketable" as opposed to one that you are passionate about.
They both love and are wonderful with children and their Bo's are the same...I don't pry into their personal lives but I've gotten a strong, subtle message that they both have, and vice versa, found
the one they want to have children with. Their mother is
ECSTATIC!
I was in the SO and very young when I first became a parent and my hope was that they would get a good education, be on their own, finish growing up, establish themselves and "find their groove" before making the commitment of marriage or having children.
If I never have grandchildren I'm okay with that. I'd rather my kids have a happy, fulfilling and financially sustainable life childless than to go through the stress of being a parent if they're emotionally, financially or philosophically not in a position to do a decent job of it, be fully "invested" and "present" during the miracles and magic of first breath, first step, first word and on through the terrible twos, first day at school and the pubescent pining pathos, all the way to cutting the strings and folding up one's apron.
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