I never took that statement to mean it the same way you are. Yeah, I can allow someone to piss me off or not, but it's different in a cult.
Besides the extreme of killing people off (I'm told R2.45 was a joke, but I'm not entirely convinced), there is the whole dispensing of existence that occurs two ways, as I see it.
First, it's not against Scno law to kill of an espee. Again, we don't know it's ever been done.
More importantly, when you're in ethics conditions with the rag on your arm and you have to "strike a blow" to an enemy of Scno to get it off, that's an example of dispensing of existence. The fact that the cult has the ability to declare you an SP and cause you to be disconnected from your family and friends is another good example of dispensing of existence. I've never taken it to mean life or death - I've always thought of it as dispensing existence IN THE CULT.
BTW, I was smuggled out of North Korea in my early teens, and I can give you other examples of dispensing existence that weren't exactly literal. For example, you could go from an office job with plenty to eat to being shipped to the outer reaches of NK with a menial job and have to scrape by for existence. Nowadays, you get disappeared into prison camps. Worse than the RFP from what I've heard.