Hello all,
I am new to this forum. My reason for being here is very personal and weighs heavy on my heart and soul. I have never been a Scientologist, but my x-wife, the mother of my daughter is a Scientologist. As for me I a prior active duty navy. I am now a reservist and I work for the Navy as a civilian contractor.
When I was dating my x-wife Scientology was explained to me as self help. After we were married my x-wife started to sound a bit more nuts than I could have imagined. She would expound the merits of the church and all that it had given her. Mind you. When I met her she was living in her friends closet after leaving the Sea Org. I suppose I always had some sort of savior complex, but I had no idea what I was getting myself into. I have been witness to many strange behaviors which I later found were common to two types of people. The first type of person is classified as a borderline personality disorder, the other is a Scientologist. I am not saying that all Scientologists have BPD or borderline personality disorder, but It does seem to fit that dis-associative type of disorder.
I did try my hardest to keep the marriage together, even as I saw her slipping away and back into the world of Scientology. I was still unprepared for what this cult could do with an indoctrinated person, who still felt there was value to their teachings. The more she returned to the world of Scientology the more I saw a completely different person. When we started dating, she was warm and caring. I was a bit more standoffish being bitten in previous relationships. We married due to a supposed pregnancy that I now believe never existed. (I will explain this in detail if there are questions about it in comments on this post.) I deployed shortly after we were married. I was not completely in love with her at this point in time and did not fall or lose my mind until much later. I say lose my mind because I am not sure if it was love or insanity of trying to live with someone who makes almost no sense, but whom you have invested entirely too much into to let go of.
11 months after we were married I returned from deployment and we actually became pregnant. I say we, because that is also when my mid section also began to expand. I suppose at some point I was actually fat and happy, or maybe just fat and blissful. Either way, I was at least OK with my life and the direction it was heading. At least that is what I thought at the time. Even at this point in time my x-wife had a propensity for spending money and supposedly not knowing where it went. I now know where it went. It went into the coffers of Scientology. After spending thousands of dollars on Scientology while I was deployed, the spending stopped for a short time when I returned from deployment, but did not stop completely.
After my daughter was born, my x-wife decided that she wanted to define her own life and since she had no respect for money she did this with impunity and disregard for our family. As I have learned in my studies of Scientology this seems to be the way the religion works. It seems to me that rational thought is thrown out the window and the irrational takes over completely. Rational thought seemed to slip away quite quickly, when it came to finances and when it came to being a mother. The x-wife would not put our daughter to bed, if it took more than a few minutes that was left up to me. The cooking, cleaning and taking care of our daughter was left up to me as well. I will admit that she did wake up at night with our daughter, but that was all she would do. On one of her days off as our daughter was 6 months old I came home after work to find a hole in the bedroom door. The x-wife had kicked the door because our 6 month old daughter had annoyed her. I was dumb founded. I asked what a 6 month old could do that would annoy her so much and she gave me an answer that shocked and dismayed me about my then wife's sanity. She relayed to me that our daughter was being a normal baby and crying. I think that was the point where I started to question everything. My x-wife left 13 months later.
After she left I attempted to become a Scientologist. I took the communications course. At the point when I took the communications course I had issues with blowing blood vessels in my left eye and could not stare into another persons eyes for any length of time without significant physical pain. I was then sent to see the ethics office or the principal as I referred to them. I felt like a child again, but was also amused that a physical malady would be such an issue for the church. I certainly was not the perfect person for Scientology. I have always questioned everything in life and Scientology was something I questioned quite harshly, especially with the experiences of the x-wife in mind. I found out that there was no clear by asking too many questions of the enrolling officer. It is also when I realized that I could not question Scientology. Due to my personality of questioning of everything I realized that Scientology was not for me. I did take the salvage your marriage course and found out that even according to Scientology my x-wife was in the wrong. Even with that I could not see myself going any further with Scientology.
The previous paragraphs were to explain some of the history about my interactions with Scientology. The next part is where my real fear about this cult comes into play.
I have added a few friends on facebook who have given me advice or attempted to give me advice on how to deal with my daughter being indoctrinated into the cult. I just found out two days ago at 6 years old she has already been hooked up to the e-meter. I cannot begin to explain how much this scares me.
I am new to this forum. My reason for being here is very personal and weighs heavy on my heart and soul. I have never been a Scientologist, but my x-wife, the mother of my daughter is a Scientologist. As for me I a prior active duty navy. I am now a reservist and I work for the Navy as a civilian contractor.
When I was dating my x-wife Scientology was explained to me as self help. After we were married my x-wife started to sound a bit more nuts than I could have imagined. She would expound the merits of the church and all that it had given her. Mind you. When I met her she was living in her friends closet after leaving the Sea Org. I suppose I always had some sort of savior complex, but I had no idea what I was getting myself into. I have been witness to many strange behaviors which I later found were common to two types of people. The first type of person is classified as a borderline personality disorder, the other is a Scientologist. I am not saying that all Scientologists have BPD or borderline personality disorder, but It does seem to fit that dis-associative type of disorder.
I did try my hardest to keep the marriage together, even as I saw her slipping away and back into the world of Scientology. I was still unprepared for what this cult could do with an indoctrinated person, who still felt there was value to their teachings. The more she returned to the world of Scientology the more I saw a completely different person. When we started dating, she was warm and caring. I was a bit more standoffish being bitten in previous relationships. We married due to a supposed pregnancy that I now believe never existed. (I will explain this in detail if there are questions about it in comments on this post.) I deployed shortly after we were married. I was not completely in love with her at this point in time and did not fall or lose my mind until much later. I say lose my mind because I am not sure if it was love or insanity of trying to live with someone who makes almost no sense, but whom you have invested entirely too much into to let go of.
11 months after we were married I returned from deployment and we actually became pregnant. I say we, because that is also when my mid section also began to expand. I suppose at some point I was actually fat and happy, or maybe just fat and blissful. Either way, I was at least OK with my life and the direction it was heading. At least that is what I thought at the time. Even at this point in time my x-wife had a propensity for spending money and supposedly not knowing where it went. I now know where it went. It went into the coffers of Scientology. After spending thousands of dollars on Scientology while I was deployed, the spending stopped for a short time when I returned from deployment, but did not stop completely.
After my daughter was born, my x-wife decided that she wanted to define her own life and since she had no respect for money she did this with impunity and disregard for our family. As I have learned in my studies of Scientology this seems to be the way the religion works. It seems to me that rational thought is thrown out the window and the irrational takes over completely. Rational thought seemed to slip away quite quickly, when it came to finances and when it came to being a mother. The x-wife would not put our daughter to bed, if it took more than a few minutes that was left up to me. The cooking, cleaning and taking care of our daughter was left up to me as well. I will admit that she did wake up at night with our daughter, but that was all she would do. On one of her days off as our daughter was 6 months old I came home after work to find a hole in the bedroom door. The x-wife had kicked the door because our 6 month old daughter had annoyed her. I was dumb founded. I asked what a 6 month old could do that would annoy her so much and she gave me an answer that shocked and dismayed me about my then wife's sanity. She relayed to me that our daughter was being a normal baby and crying. I think that was the point where I started to question everything. My x-wife left 13 months later.
After she left I attempted to become a Scientologist. I took the communications course. At the point when I took the communications course I had issues with blowing blood vessels in my left eye and could not stare into another persons eyes for any length of time without significant physical pain. I was then sent to see the ethics office or the principal as I referred to them. I felt like a child again, but was also amused that a physical malady would be such an issue for the church. I certainly was not the perfect person for Scientology. I have always questioned everything in life and Scientology was something I questioned quite harshly, especially with the experiences of the x-wife in mind. I found out that there was no clear by asking too many questions of the enrolling officer. It is also when I realized that I could not question Scientology. Due to my personality of questioning of everything I realized that Scientology was not for me. I did take the salvage your marriage course and found out that even according to Scientology my x-wife was in the wrong. Even with that I could not see myself going any further with Scientology.
The previous paragraphs were to explain some of the history about my interactions with Scientology. The next part is where my real fear about this cult comes into play.
I have added a few friends on facebook who have given me advice or attempted to give me advice on how to deal with my daughter being indoctrinated into the cult. I just found out two days ago at 6 years old she has already been hooked up to the e-meter. I cannot begin to explain how much this scares me.
, why not use that ability to ask non threatening questions of your ex wife. 
