I agree with what you've said here Mark (that which I've quoted above, from your post). However, I don't believe that this is the issue for a lot of us, when it comes to MR.
To me, in his postings (on his blog), he comes across with a certain superiority, a righteousness, and a lack of willingness to look at what he did. I don't expect him to spill the beans on all, straight up, but he has been out some years now, and I would at least expect him to be looking at doing so - Given the persona that he is presenting, it doesn't appear likely that this is going to happen. It would appear that he doesn't need or want that "privacy to sort through his stuff", like most do take and need. Instead it would appear that he is now on a 'new' steam train in another direction and is content with leaving what he did while in the SO, buried under the carpet. I was more than willing to give him the benefit of the doubt, but the more I see, the more that "willingness" is deteriorating.
I still am waiting to see where MR goes from here, and I am still reserving judgment to some extent (although I don't hold much hope). However, when people rave on about MR and give him some kind of "hero status", it makes me sick. Given his history in the CofS, he is far from any kind of hero - I think that this is the issue, and the thing that many of us find irksome .......'the' thing that 'creates' such an adverse reaction to MR.
If I was a mate of his, and I wanted to do him a favour, I'd be telling him to pull his bloody head in, and take a look at this issue.