Domestic Witch,
My heart goes out to you and you have great courage and clarity of mind to find your way here and open yourself to all of Us.
Phenomenon wrote you, IMHO, a very succinct and heartfelt response...
http://www.forum.exscn.net/showthre...rust-in-them&p=1070988&viewfull=1#post1070988. Phenomenon got into Scn in the mid 1950's or so. She knew and personally interacted with El Ron, Hisself, and has a
long history as a highly trained and experienced Auditor, is a "straight shooter" and her Posts on ESMB are an unglossed, untinted and untainted window into the Genus of Scn and the Psyche of Hubbard.
I got into Scn in the mid 1960's or so and spent a few of years as Public, a few years as Service Org Staff and over a decade in the Sea Org. I spent virtually all my SO years as Apollo Crew, Flag Crew and "Special Unit" Staff and was--amongst other things--an Int Management Senior Exec, then Commodores Staff and "ultimately" LRH Personal Staff and personally knew and interacted daily one-on-one with El Ron, Hisself.
I had children that were "born into" the SO and Scn. 30 years ago or so their mother and I took them and walked away. We did not want them to grow up in the SO culture and solely Scn environment. The first years were tough...
real tough...but today they all have Masters Degrees from First Tier Universities, wonderfully successful careers in service to Humanity and happy lives...Sans Scn and the "Tech". It hasn't always been easy and there's been lots of heartache and frustration along the way but, it's truly the best thing I've ever done.
Scn is all about Status, Persona, Conformity, Penance, Self Adulation, Self Deprecation, Self Absorption, Personal Desires and "ME" now, Now, NOW!
Parenting is all about Steadfastness, Sacrifice, Humility, Humor, Candor, Pain, Sorrow, Reflection, Joy and Love.
Ultimately, I think what led me out of the Scn Labyrinth was attending Husband Coached Childbirth Classes with my children's mother and assisting and watching my children's crown and form came into this world, draw first breath and the shimmering color and glow of life lighting their faces. At that moment, promises were made...And daddy (and mommy) somehow kept enough of those promises that, miraculously, all has turned out well. It's been breathtaking!
There are some very smart, experienced and downright decent Folks here on ESMB that have and will give you much better advice than I regarding what to do in your current situation.
However, my 2 cents is that no matter what you do, follow your instincts and Heart as a mother and parent and take care of yourself...You are the gateway, caretaker and shepherd of a new and unique life and
No One knows what the future holds.
Best Wishes,
Face